If you’re like most people, you’d be hard-pressed to think of much you don’t like about sex, right? You can use it to get closer to a partner or to engage in on your own as a way of learning about your own body. It offers you an opportunity to really let go be creative. If you do it right, it can even make for an excellent workout.
Even so, as wonderful as sex can be, it’s all too easy for things to get stale if you’ve fallen into a rut, so trying something new every once in a while is key. Of course, everyone is different as far as what they like and what’s right for them, but some things are just so good that everyone should give them a try at least once in their life. The following items are just a few great examples. Which ones deserve a place on your sexual bucket list?
- Really embrace masturbation.
We all went through a phase in our teens when we were discovering our bodies for the first time. On the one hand, self-pleasure was probably one of the most magical discoveries ever. However, it’s not uncommon to have felt a little ashamed or embarrassed about it as well and some people really never break free from that mindset.
If you’ve yet to really embrace self-love for the wonderful thing that it is, it’s high time you did exactly that. Spend some time really learning what turns you on most and discovering the many ways your body likes to be touched. It’s empowering to say the least. It’s one of the best ways to get more out of sex with a partner as well.
- Explore the wide, wonderful world of sex toys.
Pleasure doesn’t stop and start at what a skilled pair of hands or an eager mouth can do, of course. Sex toys can seriously expand your intimate horizons in ways you never quite imagined before. Some toys vibrate while others simply fill you up in the most satisfying ways. There are a multitude of toys capable of introducing you to completely new sensations you’re unlikely to experience any other way as well.
Toys aren’t just for solo use either, so if you haven’t brought one into the bedroom to use with a partner, we highly recommend it. There are even toys out there made specifically for couples. Think amazing vibrators that can be worn during intercourse, cock rings that help enhance an erection, or remote controlled toys that open you up to a wealth of new possibilities!
- Watch porn with a partner.
Like sex toys, porn is something many people think of as being only for solo use and it really shouldn’t be. Watching porn as a couple can be a serious turn-on, not to mention an amazing source of inspiration. It can make for an excellent conversation starter about important topics like fetishes, kinks, turn-ons, and turn-offs as well.
Plus, it’s just plain fun to play porn star for your partner every so often. Put on a favorite clip sometime and try acting out the things you see playing out on screen. Experiment with outfits, roleplay scenarios, new ways to use toys, and anything else you can imagine as well. The sky’s the limit!
- Become a sexting expert.
If you think of sexting as something that’s just for teenagers, definitely think again, as you’re missing out on a golden opportunity to add some serious spice to your sex life. You might be surprised at how thoroughly your partner will flip for a red hot selfie or some well-timed teasing over text.
Not sure where to start? Try snapping a flirty pic and texting it to your beloved during their work day with the simple explanation that it’s just a sample of what’s waiting for them when they come home later on. Then tease them with a little dirty talk when they respond with interest. You won’t believe how hot and exciting it will make things between you. Just make sure you send it to their cell or personal email to avoid having it seen by the wrong set of eyes!
- Have a quickie.
Great sex doesn’t necessarily require those involved to take their time. A well-timed quickie is dirty, it’s naughty, and it’s a wonderful way to blow off a little steam just about any time. It’s also a great way to inject a little spontaneity into a sexual routine that might be growing stagnant or getting too predictable.
Feeling the urge right before your friends or family will be arriving for a dinner party? Grab your partner and go for it right there on the kitchen floor, the sofa, or anywhere else you might happen to be. It’ll give you something to think about when you catch each other’s eyes over the dinner table later. Are you out and about for the night, but down to get dirty regardless? The car, a bathroom stall, or just about anywhere can make for a great place to come together in a pinch. Be creative!
- Spend an entire day in bed.
There’s also something to be said for a serious marathon session. If you’ve never done it, consider blocking off an entire day (or even an entire weekend) for you and your partner to just enjoy each other someday soon. Spend the entire time naked. Take as long as you like and do it as many times as your little heart desires. Don’t forget to be lazy, stay in bed, and nap in between love sessions.
Don’t have a partner at present? You can totally do the same thing all by yourself. Treat yourself to some fun new toys or lubes you’d really like to try and spend an entire afternoon taking them for a test drive. Put some luxurious sheets on the bed and light a few candles. Spend as much energy pampering and pleasuring yourself as you would a partner. You’re worth it!
- Experiment with “butt stuff”.
We’re not necessarily talking just about anal sex here (although it’s definitely worth trying if you haven’t yet). Full-on anal sex isn’t necessarily right for everyone, but the nerve-rich anal region in general is a serious pleasure zone that deserves to be discovered and fully explored at least once in your lifetime just so you know what it’s all about.
Start out with some light touching, either on your own or with a partner. If you like it, you can take things further one step at a time or even experiment with toys like butt plugs or anal vibrators. If you don’t like it? You don’t ever have to do it again and you can honestly say you actually know what you’re missing.
- Bring a cherished fantasy to life.
We all have pet sexual fantasies. Quite a few of us never really share them with anyone and simply bring them to mind when we’re masturbating or daydreaming though. If that sounds like you, you should definitely consider taking a leap of faith and making an effort to bring one of your favorite fantasies to life sometime. So long as it’s consensual and doesn’t involve harming anyone, it’s fair game!
Sit down with your partner and take turns trading fantasies. (Decide beforehand that you’ll be doing it judgment-free!) Zero in on one or two that you’re both intrigued by and interested in taking for a spin. Then do everything in your power to make it happen. It’s an experience neither of you will ever forget, we promise.
- Have sex in public.
Again, no pressure to do this if it really isn’t your thing, but definitely consider it if you’ve never done it before. Public sex can be tricky to be sure, but it can be so darned good that it’s worth taking a chance on. You have no idea how hot the idea of getting caught can really be until you’ve experienced it for yourself.
The next time you and a partner get the urge to merge while you’re out in public, consider acting on it and looking for an opportunity. Try doing it on the porch or the balcony. Go for it in the pool, against a tree, or in the car by the side of the road. Anything goes! Just do your best not to actually get caught or be seen.
- Dress up for the occasion.
There’s a reason why everyone loves Halloween so much. It’s fun to dress up and tap into a side of ourselves that normally doesn’t get to come out to play, right? The same principle definitely applies to your sex life.
Treat yourself or your partner to some seriously sexy lingerie, a body stocking, or even a full-on costume. Then indulge each other with an adult dress-up session. You might be pleasantly surprised at the way a little naughty-wear brings out an entirely new side of you in the bedroom. Use your imagination and be creative!