Prostate play is quite possibly the best, most universally satisfying sexual activity a large percentage of men still aren’t doing, and it’s not hard to understand why. Even sex-positive men sometimes still struggle with social norms that call a man’s masculinity into question if he enjoys anal stimulation of any kind, let alone any that’s penetrative in nature.
But the fact of the matter is, anal stimulation can potentially feel incredible to anyone, male or female. And anyone with a prostate stands to benefit even further from it, so it’s well worth giving it a try sometime. Here’s a closer look at what you and your partner should know about prostate stimulation to start your personal journey off right.
What’s So Great About Prostate Play?
If you’ve never experienced prostate stimulation in living color, it can be hard to imagine what could possibly be so incredible about it. (Isn’t one type of stimulation or orgasm as good as another?) Your prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between a man’s penis and bladder, the primary function of which is to generate and store semen.
It also just so happens to sit directly in front of the rectum, which is why anal penetration is considered the most effective way to activate it. Stimulating it can strongly encourage it to release semen and other fluids, hence all that talk you hear about prostate play resulting in legendary orgasms that are unlike anything else. The prostate is often referred to as the male G-spot for that reason.
Why Should I Try Prostate Play?
Although no one should ever feel forced or pressured to do anything in bed that they’re truly uncomfortable with, there are many benefits to pushing your sexual boundaries if you’re genuinely curious about something. Here are some reasons to add prostate play to your to-try list.
It feels amazing
The prostate is a major erogenous zone, so if you’re serious about fully exploring your body’s capacity for pleasure, you can’t consider your journey complete until you’ve tried stimulating it. Prostate stimulation has the ability to drastically intensify orgasm or even cause orgasm all on its own.
Many men say that prostate orgasms don’t require as long a time for recovery as the standard penis-focused kind, which puts the possibility of multiple orgasms on the table.
It supports sexual confidence
Part of being a sex-positive person and getting as much out of your sex life as possible is not only getting to know your body better but developing a sense of comfort with your sexuality. That means owning and embracing the acts and sensations that bring you pleasure.
Engaging in P-spot stimulation – either on your own or with a partner – is a powerful way for modern men to reclaim their sexuality and banish sexual shame back to the shadows where it belongs. And it can boost intimacy with a partner, as well.
It’s good for your health
Any sort of sexual activity is fantastic for your health, as it boosts mood, burns calories, improves stamina, and supports strength. But prostate massage brings some unique benefits of its own to the table, as well.
For example, regular prostate massage can help keep prostate-related conditions – like benign prostatic hyperplasia and chronic prostatitis – at bay. Some experts believe that it might even help prevent prostate cancer.
How to Approach a First Play Session
Ready to give prostate play a try? Here are some pointers for having a terrific and satisfying first experience, with or without a partner along for the ride.
Make sure you’re fully aroused
Like many parts of your nether regions, your prostate swells and enlarges when you’re aroused, making it a lot easier to find. You also have two different ways you can stimulate your prostate.
The most effective way is to insert a finger or anal-safe toy into your rectum and feel for it. However, it’s also possible to stimulate the prostate through the perineum if you’re uncomfortable with penetration.
Add the right tools to the mix
Although finding the prostate is far from impossible, it can be challenging for someone less experienced. So don’t be afraid to add a sex toy to the mix. Prostate massagers are specially designed to accurately locate and stimulate your P-spot to perfection, no guesswork or fruitless searching required.
And if you’re stimulating your prostate internally, be sure to use plenty of lube. You’ll be glad you did.
Once you’ve tried prostate massage on for size, it’s entirely up to you whether you decide to make it an ongoing part of your routine. While many guys find that they absolutely love it, others realize they could do without it, and that’s okay, too.
When it comes to sex, it’s all about what you’re comfortable with and what makes you feel good (and your partner, too, if you have one).
