9 Phenomenal Places to Have Sex (That Aren’t the Bedroom)

As you’re no doubt already aware, the bedroom is actually a pretty ideal place to get down and dirty. To begin with, it’s a natural, comfortable place to be intimate. It offers you and your play partner plenty of privacy, so it’s a safe location to experiment or engage in any type of kinky fun you might be in the mood for.  It’s also the type of place that can get seriously old and predictable if you never do it anywhere else.

If that’s the way you’ve been feeling about things lately, you’ve come to the right place. The following are just a few alternative places to consider getting frisky with your one and only the next time you want to mix things up a little. Some of them are potentially as private as your bedroom while others are a little more risqué, so there’s bound to be an option on the list that’s right for you. Explore the possibilities today!

  1. The Shower

The shower is a classic when it comes to having sex outside of the bedroom for a number of really good reasons. It’s not the bedroom, but it still offers plenty of privacy — perfect if you have children, houseguests, or roommates to worry about. Since bathing is at least part of the reason you’re in there, clean-up becomes an absolute breeze. Everything from the smell of the soap to the feeling of your partner’s body gliding over yours seriously adds to the experience as well.

That said, if you’ve never had sex in the shower or the bathtub, it makes a great first choice when it comes to experimenting with new locations for all the reasons listed above. If it’s already a regular stop on your rotation, try adding a little additional oomph to your shower play sessions with a new sex toy or two. Think waterproof versions of favorites like vibrators, dildos, and anal plugs! Water-safe toys make for great ways to enjoy a little solo action in the shower or tub as well.

  1. The Car

Here we have another terrific option for those that want to experiment with public sex, but aren’t quite ready to go all out yet. Embracing car sex opens your options way up when it comes to being spontaneous in particular. Take a break during a long road trip by pulling over for a quickie or get a little frisky in the parking lot after a romantic dinner if the mood strikes! Car sex can bring back pleasant memories of being young in high school or college for a lot of us as well.

Car sex doesn’t always have to be raunchy, hurried, or naughty though (unless that’s what you’re in the mood for). Try packing some blankets, driving out to an open field or any other secluded location, and enjoying an impromptu evening together that involves stargazing or snuggling after your intimate encounter. Perfect for any time you need to plan a romantic evening on a shoestring budget!

  1. The Woods

Sure, sex on the beach can be fantastic in its own way. However, the issue of sand alone can be a serious mood killer that makes it sound better on paper than it really is in reality. The woods, on the other hand, make for a wonderful alternative that will definitely satisfy your need for a totally primal experience once in a while.

Plenty of fresh air, truly spectacular views, and the thrill of indulging your inner exhibitionist all combine to make any experience red hot. Plus, it’s up to you as far as how risqué things actually get. You can go for something brief against a tree in the middle of an afternoon spent hiking or plan a more private encounter that involves a scheduled camping trip and the shelter of a tent. Better yet, try both!

  1. At the Office

Naturally, not every workplace comes equipped with enough privacy to enjoy the occasional quickie during your shift. However, if yours does and you’re up for the risk, you might want to consider giving it a try. It’s the serious taboo factor that makes it so hot, after all.

There are plenty of ways to play things safer if you’re not willing to jeopardize your job over a quickie though. Try engaging in an all-day sexting session with your beloved instead so that you’re primed and ready by the time you get home later. Ultra-discreet sex toys that resemble everyday objects like lipstick or mascara can simplify seizing opportunities to blow off a little extra steam if the mood strikes as well.

  1. At a Party

The feasibility factor of this one depends a lot on the situation, as well as on who else is around. However, it’s also a quick ticket to some seriously red hot action if you’re able to safely sneak away unnoticed. (If you’re at the type of party where such behavior is welcomed and encouraged, so much the better!)

Try grabbing your lover’s hand and going in search of an empty room, a dark corner of the garden, or even your car if you spot a golden opportunity. If you’re the hosts, you can always consider having a quickie on the kitchen floor or the sofa just minutes before your guests arrive. It’ll give you something delicious to think about as you catch each other’s eyes throughout the evening to come, not to mention put you in a great mood for entertaining!

  1. In a Fitting Room

Although this is probably one of the riskier options on this list, it’s definitely one you might want to consider if you’re all about being adventurous. Many stores leave fitting rooms completely unattended during the day, as they see little to no traffic, so it’s often not hard to sneak in a quick one if the mood strikes.

Naturally, the fitting room situation can vary a lot from location to location though, so it’s probably not a bad idea to do a little light homework first. The next couple of times you go out shopping, pay close attention to which shops have the most private dressing areas with the least traffic. Keep the information you glean in mind for the next time you’re out window shopping with your partner and feel in the mood for a quickie.

  1. A Cheap Motel Room

Some motels just seem made for naughty encounters of all types and if you’ve been to one, you probably remember the experience well. Maybe you got the impression that the staff or the other guests totally knew what was up. Maybe you were there for a clandestine encounter of your own and overheard other couples going at it through the paper thin walls. Whatever the case may have been, it was probably hard not to feel equal parts scandalized and deliciously sleazy.

There’s no law that says scoring a cheap motel room expressly for the purpose of getting busy has to stop because you and your current partner aren’t hard up for opportunities to be together. Try doing exactly that just for a change of pace or as part of a roleplay scenario you’ve been wanting to explore. It might be just what the two of you needed when it comes to letting lose, getting crazy, and really blowing off some steam!

  1. A Not-So-Cheap Hotel Room

Of course, the other end of the spectrum has a lot to offer as well when it comes to having the best sex of your life. Luxury in and of itself can be pretty sexy. Plus, there’s nothing like a really posh location to help you relax, unwind, and really get away from it all. That said, you may want to consider planning your next vacation specifically with romance in mind.

Book a stay at luxury spa or a five-star hotel complete with all the trimmings. Think Jacuzzis, beautiful views, and seriously excellent room service! Shop for some sexy lingerie, some new toys, or a delicious-sounding new lube you’d like to try together beforehand. Then put it to good use as you lose yourself in one another for a few days.

  1. The Stairs

Last but definitely not least, you’ll want to start looking at stairs in a new light if you’re in search of new and exciting places to get busy with your beloved. The height variations work wonders when it comes to making certain positions easier (or possible in the first place). This is especially the case if one of you is much taller than the other.

Any set of stairs is worth exploring, so it’s totally up to you how risqué you want to be. Keep things safe and private by putting the ones at home to good use or give in to the urge to be naughty on a public flight of stairs some night soon. Great things happen when you allow yourself to be creative about your sex life, so let your imagination run wild!

 

10 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About BDSM

BDSM is the type of thing people think they understand. After all, they’ve seen plenty of it on TV, in movies, or on their favorite porn sites. They’ve not only read Fifty Shades of Grey, but really liked it. They may even have friends that are into the lifestyle. What they don’t understand is just how much misinformation is really out there as far as what BDSM really is (and isn’t) about.

Here we’ll take a closer look at some of the most commonly held misconceptions the general populace has about BDSM. In the process, we’ll cover what it’s really all about, who’s into it, and why as well. How many of the following do you believe?

  1. There’s always sex involved.

If there’s one myth most people believe about BDSM at one point or another, it’s probably this one. For some people, BDSM is very much a sex thing, meaning it involves the physical act of sex to one degree or another. However, there are plenty of others for whom sex doesn’t factor into their preferred experience at all.

At the end of the day, it really just boils down to an individual’s personal preferences. There’s no one “correct” way or reason to be curious about BDSM or interested in exploring it for yourself. You can draw a hard line between your play sessions and sex, you can combine the two, and you can change your mind at any time.

  1. Pain and pleasure are complete opposites.

Most people tend to think there’s a huge, very well-defined difference between pain and pleasure. In actuality, the two sensations are pretty closely related. In fact, most people have had at least a few sexual experiences that totally blurred the remarkably fine line between the two.

When a lover nibbles on your neck or your ear lobe during sex or foreplay, it actually hurts at least a little, right? Yet if you’re into it, it can also be extremely pleasurable at the same time. For most people, pain can cause or greatly enhance pleasure to one degree or another and that connection is what makes BDSM so appealing for so many.

  1. It’s all about pain.

If you think BDSM starts and stops at pain, it’s probably because you know exactly what would come up if you googled a term like “bondage” or “fetish”. A lot of it would be images and videos that are more apt to make you wince than turn you on, right? Well, images like those are the result of a stereotype skewed by the porn industry and don’t necessarily have much to do with the realities of BDSM.

In fact, one of the main principles of BDSM and fetish play is that it’s all about what does it for you. For some people, that might be pain, but for someone else it might the light, teasing touch of a feather tickler or the delicious surprise of an experience enjoyed while blindfolded. The whole point is to open one’s self up to a power exchange between themselves and a play partner – something that might not have anything to do with pain whatsoever.

  1. BDSM only recently became trendy.

Fifty Shades gets a lot of credit for making BDSM trendy, but it probably shouldn’t. Sure, it got people talking about it and for some, it was the thing that triggered their curiosity for the very first time. However, BDSM first made its way into the mainstream as long ago as the 1940’s.

That’s when you first saw the rise of the pin-up girl and the introduction of the first fetish magazines. People were into things like leather subculture then as well. BDSM as a concept goes much further back even than that though. Human beings have been experimenting with this type of play to one degree or another for many, many years.

  1. Fifty Shades of Grey is a good example of what BDSM is all about.

As touched on above, a lot of people these days think they know what BDSM is all about because they read the Fifty Shades books or saw the movies. However, any person that’s really into BDSM will totally tell you that much of the storyline badly misses the point.

Although there are lots of things about the series that tick the BDSM community off, the most oft cited one is the fact that Christian Grey’s sessions with Anastasia aren’t as consensual as they should be. Both the books and the movies are packed with scenarios that occurred despite the fact that Anastasia clearly wasn’t comfortable and BDSM is never about forcing someone to do something they don’t want to do. In fact, communication and mutual respect are considered absolute musts.

  1. BDSM is something only emotionally damaged people are into.

Christian Grey may have been emotionally damaged and psychologically scarred, but that hardly means everyone that’s into bondage and fetish play must be. In fact, according to recent studies, the average person that’s into BDSM or kink are incredibly well-adjusted as compared to the rest of the populace. Couples that have decided to make kink, roleplay, or bondage a part of their regular repertoire have been found to be happier on average than those that haven’t as well.

It’s also worth noting that contrary to popular belief, there is no evidence to suggest those that are into kink have sick minds that are the result of childhood abuse or a dysfunctional family life. However, there are studies out there that link participation in BDSM scenarios to a marked reduction in anxiety, so by all means break out the handcuffs! They may actually be good for you.

  1. One partner is always dominant and the other is always submissive.

Yes, many couples that are into a BDSM lifestyle prefer being either dominant or submissive pretty much 100% of the time. However, there are plenty of people out there that really enjoy both sides of the equation and switch roles frequently, so again – there’s no one right way to approach the dom/sub dynamic.

It’s also a common misconception that in male-female relationships, it’s always the woman that’s the submissive. Women are just as likely as men to want to be the one to take charge in a BDSM scenario and men are just as likely to prefer being submissive. Again, it all depends on which side of the equation looks the sexiest to you. Your gender doesn’t have anything to do with it.

  1. BDSM always involves the use of props.

If you’re curious about BDSM, but shy away from it because you don’t like the idea of handcuffs, rope, leather, or vinyl we have good news for you. Although the right props can definitely enhance the experience if you’re into them, they’re hardly mandatory.

Again, an important part of entering the world of BDSM is sitting down with yourself and deciding what you do and don’t think is sexy or fun. You also have the right to change your mind at any time. You may be adamantly against the idea of being spanked with a leather flogger or blindfolded right now, but decide you’re willing to give it a try with the right play partner at some other point down the road and that’s totally OK.

  1. Submissives enjoy being treated badly on an everyday basis.

Lots of people think of submissives as people that more or less just enjoy being treated like garbage all the time and that’s not true. Many people enjoy playing a submissive role in the bedroom precisely because it’s the opposite of who they are in their day to day lives. In fact, the world is full of bedroom submissives that are likely to take you straight to school if you attempt to tell them what to do outside of an actual BDSM scenario.

Even hardcore lifestyle submissives don’t necessarily live up to this stereotype. Most have a designated master that they’re devoted to pleasing or serving and won’t tolerate “bad” or “degrading” treatment at the hands of anyone else.

  1. BDSM is something only young, wild, single people are into.

If you’re new to concepts like bondage or fetish, you probably have a really clear picture in your head as to what people that swear by BDSM are like. The chances are also really good that you’re dead wrong. There’s no one type of person that BDSM and kink appeal to.

Sure, there are BDSM enthusiasts that like to hint at their interests with the way they dress, talk, or carry themselves. More often than not, you’d never be able to pick one out of a crowd. Many, many married couples are into kink and occasional bondage play. BDSM appeals to people of all ages and from all walks of life as well. That potentially includes your mild-mannered neighbors, your mailman, and maybe even your grandmother.

That said, you don’t have to be a certain type of person to “have permission” to explore kink, bondage, or BDSM. If it sounds like something you’d enjoy, discuss it with your partner. Shop for some basic gear together or experiment with some of the lighter fare the next time you’re in the bedroom. You just might discover a whole new side of yourself you really like!

10 Sexy Things Everyone Should Try at Least Once

If you’re like most people, you’d be hard-pressed to think of much you don’t like about sex, right? You can use it to get closer to a partner or to engage in on your own as a way of learning about your own body. It offers you an opportunity to really let go be creative. If you do it right, it can even make for an excellent workout.

Even so, as wonderful as sex can be, it’s all too easy for things to get stale if you’ve fallen into a rut, so trying something new every once in a while is key. Of course, everyone is different as far as what they like and what’s right for them, but some things are just so good that everyone should give them a try at least once in their life. The following items are just a few great examples. Which ones deserve a place on your sexual bucket list?

  1. Really embrace masturbation.

We all went through a phase in our teens when we were discovering our bodies for the first time. On the one hand, self-pleasure was probably one of the most magical discoveries ever. However, it’s not uncommon to have felt a little ashamed or embarrassed about it as well and some people really never break free from that mindset.

If you’ve yet to really embrace self-love for the wonderful thing that it is, it’s high time you did exactly that. Spend some time really learning what turns you on most and discovering the many ways your body likes to be touched. It’s empowering to say the least. It’s one of the best ways to get more out of sex with a partner as well.

  1. Explore the wide, wonderful world of sex toys.

Pleasure doesn’t stop and start at what a skilled pair of hands or an eager mouth can do, of course. Sex toys can seriously expand your intimate horizons in ways you never quite imagined before. Some toys vibrate while others simply fill you up in the most satisfying ways. There are a multitude of toys capable of introducing you to completely new sensations you’re unlikely to experience any other way as well.

Toys aren’t just for solo use either, so if you haven’t brought one into the bedroom to use with a partner, we highly recommend it. There are even toys out there made specifically for couples. Think amazing vibrators that can be worn during intercourse, cock rings that help enhance an erection, or remote controlled toys that open you up to a wealth of new possibilities!

  1. Watch porn with a partner.

Like sex toys, porn is something many people think of as being only for solo use and it really shouldn’t be. Watching porn as a couple can be a serious turn-on, not to mention an amazing source of inspiration. It can make for an excellent conversation starter about important topics like fetishes, kinks, turn-ons, and turn-offs as well.

Plus, it’s just plain fun to play porn star for your partner every so often. Put on a favorite clip sometime and try acting out the things you see playing out on screen. Experiment with outfits, roleplay scenarios, new ways to use toys, and anything else you can imagine as well. The sky’s the limit!

  1. Become a sexting expert.

If you think of sexting as something that’s just for teenagers, definitely think again, as you’re missing out on a golden opportunity to add some serious spice to your sex life. You might be surprised at how thoroughly your partner will flip for a red hot selfie or some well-timed teasing over text.

Not sure where to start? Try snapping a flirty pic and texting it to your beloved during their work day with the simple explanation that it’s just a sample of what’s waiting for them when they come home later on. Then tease them with a little dirty talk when they respond with interest. You won’t believe how hot and exciting it will make things between you. Just make sure you send it to their cell or personal email to avoid having it seen by the wrong set of eyes!

  1. Have a quickie.

Great sex doesn’t necessarily require those involved to take their time. A well-timed quickie is dirty, it’s naughty, and it’s a wonderful way to blow off a little steam just about any time. It’s also a great way to inject a little spontaneity into a sexual routine that might be growing stagnant or getting too predictable.

Feeling the urge right before your friends or family will be arriving for a dinner party? Grab your partner and go for it right there on the kitchen floor, the sofa, or anywhere else you might happen to be. It’ll give you something to think about when you catch each other’s eyes over the dinner table later. Are you out and about for the night, but down to get dirty regardless? The car, a bathroom stall, or just about anywhere can make for a great place to come together in a pinch. Be creative!

  1. Spend an entire day in bed.

There’s also something to be said for a serious marathon session. If you’ve never done it, consider blocking off an entire day (or even an entire weekend) for you and your partner to just enjoy each other someday soon. Spend the entire time naked. Take as long as you like and do it as many times as your little heart desires. Don’t forget to be lazy, stay in bed, and nap in between love sessions.

Don’t have a partner at present? You can totally do the same thing all by yourself. Treat yourself to some fun new toys or lubes you’d really like to try and spend an entire afternoon taking them for a test drive. Put some luxurious sheets on the bed and light a few candles. Spend as much energy pampering and pleasuring yourself as you would a partner. You’re worth it!

  1. Experiment with “butt stuff”.

We’re not necessarily talking just about anal sex here (although it’s definitely worth trying if you haven’t yet). Full-on anal sex isn’t necessarily right for everyone, but the nerve-rich anal region in general is a serious pleasure zone that deserves to be discovered and fully explored at least once in your lifetime just so you know what it’s all about.

Start out with some light touching, either on your own or with a partner. If you like it, you can take things further one step at a time or even experiment with toys like butt plugs or anal vibrators. If you don’t like it? You don’t ever have to do it again and you can honestly say you actually know what you’re missing.

  1. Bring a cherished fantasy to life.

We all have pet sexual fantasies. Quite a few of us never really share them with anyone and simply bring them to mind when we’re masturbating or daydreaming though. If that sounds like you, you should definitely consider taking a leap of faith and making an effort to bring one of your favorite fantasies to life sometime. So long as it’s consensual and doesn’t involve harming anyone, it’s fair game!

Sit down with your partner and take turns trading fantasies. (Decide beforehand that you’ll be doing it judgment-free!) Zero in on one or two that you’re both intrigued by and interested in taking for a spin. Then do everything in your power to make it happen. It’s an experience neither of you will ever forget, we promise.

  1. Have sex in public.

Again, no pressure to do this if it really isn’t your thing, but definitely consider it if you’ve never done it before. Public sex can be tricky to be sure, but it can be so darned good that it’s worth taking a chance on. You have no idea how hot the idea of getting caught can really be until you’ve experienced it for yourself.

The next time you and a partner get the urge to merge while you’re out in public, consider acting on it and looking for an opportunity. Try doing it on the porch or the balcony. Go for it in the pool, against a tree, or in the car by the side of the road. Anything goes! Just do your best not to actually get caught or be seen.

  1. Dress up for the occasion.

There’s a reason why everyone loves Halloween so much. It’s fun to dress up and tap into a side of ourselves that normally doesn’t get to come out to play, right? The same principle definitely applies to your sex life.

Treat yourself or your partner to some seriously sexy lingerie, a body stocking, or even a full-on costume. Then indulge each other with an adult dress-up session. You might be pleasantly surprised at the way a little naughty-wear brings out an entirely new side of you in the bedroom. Use your imagination and be creative!

9 Tips for Taking Your Solo Sessions to the Next Level

If you really do enjoy a little solo sex once in a while, you’re in excellent company. On average, about 78% of all Americans admit to having masturbated at one point or another in their lives. Some people even dig solo play so much that they masturbate more than once a day. It’s not just your sex life with your partner that can get a little stale if you do things the same exact way over and over again though. Masturbation can also lose its luster if you don’t switch things up once in a while.

That said, if you’ve been feeling like your solo sessions could use a little extra oomph lately, you’ve definitely come to the right place. Here we’ll go over some effective and interesting new ways to spice things up on days when the sex is all about you. You’ll have more pep in your step in no time!

  1. Add lube to the mix.

You’re most likely already familiar with the way the right lube can take partnered sex from OK to excellent in no time flat. Well, lube can have the same awesome effect on solo action as well, especially if you’re looking to enhance your ability to orgasm. In fact, according to a recent study, a whopping 50% of those polled swore by lube as something that makes experiencing a phenomenal “O” a lot easier.

Don’t just settle for any old lube unless you want to either. Try an option that features a sexy scent you associate with passion, peace, or any other positive emotion. Take a fun warming lube for a test spin on your own before bringing it into the bedroom with your partner. Anything goes!

  1. Treat yourself to a new toy.

While there’s certainly nothing wrong with enjoying an au naturel session now and again, never underestimate the impact the right toy can have on your solo sex life. If you’re new to sex toys, consider getting started with an option like the famous rabbit vibrator. You hear about that particular vibe all the time for a reason – it delivers and then some!

Already been using a vibrator for ages? There’s definitely no law against having more than one toy to turn to when you feel the urge. Check out some of the newer, trendier options to hit the market in recent years and treat your toy chest to a much needed new addition. Alternatively, you can try getting yourself off with just your hands for a change. New sensations are the name of the game here, so always feel free to change things up.

  1. Set a sexy mood.

If you’re like a lot of people, you like to go the extra mile to set a sultry mood if you’re expecting some sexy company on a given evening. Who says you can’t do the same thing when it’s just going to be you? Next time you feel the urge or are looking for a surefire way to unwind after a tough day, treat yourself to some serious ambience. You’re worth it!

Start by tidying up a little. (Piles of dirty laundry and old Chinese food containers hardly scream “sexy”.) Switch out your everyday sheets for something silky and inviting that will feel wonderful against your skin. Light a few candles in your favorite scent and enjoy!

  1. Take your time exploring your body.

When it comes to masturbation, it’s all too easy to fall into a routine once you figure out what works for you. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right? However, a routine can easily become a rut if you’re not careful. Plus, your vagina and your clit are far from your only erogenous zones.

If you’ve never really taken the time to explore the wonders of your own body from head to toe, it’s high time you made it a point to do so. Some of your hot spots – like your nipples, to name just one – are more obvious. Others are little more unexpected or even unique to you. Try experimenting with different sensations as well. Compare how a vibrating bullet or a feather tickler feels on a particularly sensitive area as compared to your fingers, for instance.

  1. Walk, don’t run, toward orgasm.

We’re definitely not knocking the occasional quick and dirty session when you’re pressed for time or just want to get off in a flash. However, it’s also worth realizing that sometimes the best things come to those who wait. The next time you’re trying to pass time on a lazy afternoon, consider treating yourself to a slow and sensual pleasure session.

Bring yourself right to the brink of orgasm the way you normally would. Stop, breathe, and let the tension ebb a bit. Then work your way back up to that critical point all over again. Stop again. Repeat for as long as you think you can stand it. When you finally allow yourself to go over the edge, you won’t believe how intense the experience will be.

  1. Treat yourself to some porn.

If you don’t usually use porn to help enhance the experience when you’re getting busy all by yourself, maybe it’s time to give it a try. Try it even if you think you’re not all that into it. There are more types of porn out there these days than you can possibly imagine, so there really is something out there to suit everyone.

Plus, a solo session is the perfect opportunity to make the selection of the evening all about you. Check out something you’re totally into even if your partner isn’t. Sometimes it’s fun to check out some new options as well. You just might hit on a creative new idea you’d like to try sometime either on your own or with a partner. Variety is the spice of life and porn makes for excellent inspiration!

  1. Don’t limit yourself to just one.

If you’ve never experienced the fabled multiple orgasm for yourself, don’t simply assume that you’re not personally capable of it. Think of it as something you can teach yourself to achieve (because it totally is). Solo sessions provide the perfect learning environment, as there’s no pressure to experience anything in particular and no worries about hurting a partner’s feelings if it just doesn’t happen for whatever reason.

Experiment with a couple of different techniques to see what’s most likely to get the job done. Go for your first orgasm and then take a breather for 30-60 seconds to give your body a much-needed moment to recover before going in for seconds. You’ll still be highly simulated thanks to the first orgasm, but not as oversensitive as you might have been just after, so don’t be surprised if you feel a second “O” coming on relatively quickly. Try going for a third, a fourth, or as many as you’re in the mood for. Eventually, you’ll develop a technique that you can totally replicate with a partner some night if you’re so inclined.

  1. Try a new location on for size.

Do you tend to masturbate in the same locations over and over again, cycling back and forth between your bedroom and your bathtub? Maybe it’s time to discover what it would be like to get busy somewhere else for a change. Trust us when we say just about anywhere is a good place to take yourself on a little joyride.

Do you tend to feel tense and stressed out in the middle of your workday? Try treating yourself to a quick “O” somewhere discreet as a way to break up your day in all the right ways. Are you totally into having partnered sex in public? Consider enjoying a quick rubdown all by yourself someplace you just might get caught. If you’re so inclined, you can even invest in an ultra-discreet vibrator that looks exactly like a lipstick, a mascara wand, or some other everyday item and slip it into your purse so it’s always at the ready when the mood hits you.

  1. Go solo together.

Mutual masturbation represents the best of both worlds. You get to enjoy a hands-on solo experience that features all the moves you know will get you off while connecting with a partner at the same time. That said, it’s really worth trying at some point if you’ve never done it.

Stimulating yourself in all the right ways while watching a partner do the same is seriously hot to say the least. Plus, taking note of how your partner likes to touch their body while they do the same with you is a great learning experience for the both of you. Don’t be afraid to add a little dirty talk, some porn you both like, your favorite sex toys, or anything else that would enhance the experience for the two of you.

At the end of the day, you’re quite simply missing out on a potentially amazing experience if you treat solo play like a purely utilitarian chore. It can be indulgent, relaxing, and wholly enjoyable in its own right, so don’t be afraid to explore a little. We promise you’ll be glad you did!

9 Surprising Secrets to Sizzling Married Sex

Anyone that’s been married for long can tell you that the committed life is both blissful and difficult. On the one hand, being someone’s spouse means you get to go through life hand in hand with your very best friend. On the other, things can easily get stale and lackluster in the bedroom once things become too familiar. Plus, added distractions like children and blossoming careers can eventually demand enough of your time and energy that it’s hard to make enough room for sex.

In other words, keeping the flames of desire alive and burning takes work once you’re married, but it’s definitely something that can be done if the two of you put your minds to it. The following are just a few must-know secrets to keeping your sex life hot and passionate pretty much indefinitely. Which ones will you be adding to your repertoire?

  1. Get reacquainted with your partner’s desires.

If you’ve been together a while, it might be tempting to think you know everything about your partner as far as what they do and don’t like in bed, but you’d be surprised. Many people have fetishes and fantasies they’ve never discussed with their long-term partners out of fear of judgment or just plain shyness. Plus, fantasies and preferences can evolve with time, so you never know when something new might have tickled your partner’s fancy.

That said, make plans to sit down for a “no judgment” discussion sometime soon. Take turns sharing fantasies and ideas as far as new things you’d like to try. Then make a list of some of the possibilities you’d both like to explore together and follow through with plans to do exactly that.

  1. Hit the gym together.

Most of us do associate ultra-hot sex with working up a sweat to at least some extent. However, we may not immediately associate sex with actual exercise and we really should. The harder your blood is pumping when you’re getting down and dirty, the stronger and more intense your orgasms are going to be.

That said, a better sex life is an excellent reason to stay in tip-top condition from a fitness standpoint. Try hitting the gym and working up a sweat together. Not only will you enjoy even more opportunities to bond with one another, but you’ll both love the way getting stronger improves your stamina in the bedroom.

  1. Make time for more solo sessions.

Just about everyone masturbates from time to time, including married people. However, far too many people never really think of their solo sessions as something to really enjoy and take their time with. Whether you like doing things au naturel or enjoy enhancing the experience with toys, solo play is an important part of getting to know your body and understanding what kinds of touch bring you pleasure.

You should also consider fantasizing more often. The more you think about having sex, the more you’re likely to want it. Good old-fashioned imagination certainly works, but so do activities like watching sexy movies, reading romance novels, or listening to sensual music – especially if you do it together. Indulging in occasional daydreams about some of your past play sessions together is also highly recommended, as it helps to keep your vision of your partner as a hot, sexual being at the forefront of your mind.

  1. Take a couple’s sex toy for a spin.

It’s a common misconception that sex toys are only for solo use. In actuality, almost any sex toy can be used by a couple just as easily as an individual. However, there’s a whole world out there full of sex toys designed specifically for couples and they’re way too good to miss out on. They definitely help keep married sex hot, satisfying, and novel for both parties.

Try getting started with something simple like a couple’s vibrator designed to be worn during intercourse or a vibrating cock ring. The vibrations will be highly pleasurable for both of you. If you enjoy the experience, you can add even more toys to your collection. Vibrating bullets can be versatile and very useful items to keep on hand, to name just one example. There are even remote-controlled toys that synch up to one another in order to make time spent apart more bearable, if you know what we mean.

  1. Give your bedroom a sexy overhaul.

If you’re like most married people, it’s all too possible that your bedroom feels less like a boudoir and more like just any old room. Think dirty laundry, everyday clutter, and décor that pretty much starts and stops at family photos! While there’s nothing really wrong with a bedroom feeling “lived in”, it doesn’t exactly help inspire those sexy feelings you’re after.

Consider redecorating a little and adding some new touches that really get the two of you excited about having sex. Invest in some new sheets that feel amazing against your skin, lights that can be lowered to set a mood, or some sensual art to add to the walls. You should also set aside a convenient storage spot for items like lube, blindfolds, toys, condoms, erotica, or anything else the two of you like to use together so that it’s always close at hand.

  1. Spend alone time away from home.

You’re probably already familiar with how healing a well-timed vacation can be. Of course, you can make sure you spend enough time taking it easy instead of working 24/7, but there’s just something about actually packing your bags, leaving home, and getting away from it all even for a weekend that really resets you properly.

Making time for the occasional weekend getaway or romantic vacation can work the same magic for your sex life. You don’t even necessarily have to go far. Even booking a room for a couple of nights at a bed and breakfast or hotel just outside of town can be helpful. Plan the entire trip around romance and sex. Be naked together as often as possible. Enjoy activities like couple’s massages or long evening walks on the beach. It makes a whole world of difference.

  1. Explore role play together.

Who says playing dress-up and making believe is just for kids? It can be just as fun for adults. If you’ve never tried roleplay on for size, there’s no time like the present to consider it. Many happily married and very sexual couples swear by it as a way to keep things fresh, fun, and exciting in the bedroom.

Best of all, there’s no wrong way to roleplay, so feel free to let your imaginations run wild. Share some fantasies that involve scenarios, outfits, or situations that turn you on. Shop for some fun costumes together or experiment with pretending to be different people out in public. Don’t be afraid to really get into your roles and have fun together.

  1. Take the time to unplug once in a while.

If you and your partner are like most modern people, you spend most (if not all) of your time plugged in to one degree or another and with good reason. Technology is becoming a bigger and bigger part of how we stay connected to the world around us and the people we know. It’s definitely something we’re used to at this point. However, it’s also a potential deterrent to connecting with your partner as often or thoroughly as you should.

According to statistics, roughly 22% of couples bring tech options like laptops, phones, or tablets to bed with them. They then sit in bed surfing the Internet, answering email, or killing time on social media instead of focusing on their partner. It’s all too easy for this to become a habit to the point where your sex life suffers.

Consider establishing a “no tech” rule when it’s time for bed. You don’t necessarily have to have sex instead, but you should spend that time chatting to your partner, cuddling, or perhaps watching a movie together – anything that helps the two of you connect.

  1. Lean on your partner emotionally.

Most successful married couples will also tell you that physical intimacy doesn’t occur in a vacuum. It’s the direct result of emotional intimacy and closeness in other aspects of the relationship. The closer the two of you stay emotionally, the better and more meaningful your sex life is likely to be.

That said, make sure you’re not focusing too much of your emotional energy on other people in your lives. While it’s fine to have close friends or family that you lean on for support, sexy couples that stay in love with each other typically turn to one another first. Your partner should certainly be the first person you want to tell when you receive important news, either good or bad.

As you can see, a hot sex life is only partly about the bedroom. It also has a lot to do with emotional intimacy, creativity, health, and your general environment as well. Start looking for ways you can bring your marriage, your home, and your life more in line with the principles above today. You won’t be sorry!

9 Sex Toy Safety Tips Everyone Should Know

It goes pretty much without saying that there’s a lot to love about sex toys. They’re great ways to not only enhance your solo pleasure sessions, but to turn up the dial on partnered sex. They can teach you more about your body, as well as make you a better lover. They can introduce you to exciting new sensations you never even knew you were into before as well.

However, sex toys become a lot less awesome when you’re not well-versed in sex toy safety. Here we’ll go over some of the most important things to keep in mind when it comes to using and sharing sex toys safely. We’ll go over a few tips for washing and maintaining your toys as well.

  1. Make sure the toys you choose are non-toxic.

Society is getting better at opening and maintaining an informative dialogue when it comes to sex. However, sex toys still occupy a grey area. They’re definitely out there and people absolutely use them. However, public leaders and the education system still largely refuse to acknowledge them. Not only do very few sex education classes cover sex toy safety, but the general mindset out there also keeps the toy industry largely unregulated.

For that reason, it’s important to know how to avoid potentially toxic sex toys, especially if you have sensitive skin. Prioritize toys that are made from non-toxic, body-safe materials like medical grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel. You may also want to avoid toys that contain phthalates, chemicals sometimes used to soften rubber but that have also been linked to various health issues. Last but certainly not least, always buy your toys from brands and merchants you know you can trust to deliver a safe, high quality product.

  1. Be careful with toys that are porous.

Some sex toys have one very important thing in common with your skin – they’re porous in nature, meaning they contain tiny openings that can potentially hide bacteria or dirt. This makes them particularly challenging to clean and take care of. (In fact, you can never be 100% certain that they’re clean on a microscopic level at all.) While this may not be a huge deal if you’re only going to be using the toy in question on yourself, you’ll definitely want to think twice before sharing a porous sex toy with someone else.

You’ll also want to make sure that you not only wash your porous sex toys (i.e. toys made of rubber, vinyl, leather, wood, jelly, or thermoplastics) thoroughly, but that you let them dry thoroughly before putting them away. Otherwise, there’s a chance they could become sanctuaries for mold or mildew and nobody wants a moldy vibrator or dildo in their life, right?

  1. Understand that sharing isn’t necessarily caring.

As touched on above, it’s definitely possible for a sex toy to transmit bacteria and viruses, so it’s important to share responsibly. Porous sex toys pose a particular risk for obvious reasons, as they can harbor and transmit human papilloma virus (HPV) among other things. (This is the case even if they’ve just been cleaned.) For that reason, you’ll want to avoid sharing porous vibrators, dildos, or other toys with any sex partner you wouldn’t also feel comfortable having unprotected sex with (i.e. a spouse or a very long-term partner you trust).

Of course, this hardly means you can’t ever enjoy a toy with a one-night stand or a more casual partner. Just stick to non-porous materials like glass, stainless steel, or non-porous silicone for absolute safety. Also make sure you’re cleaning your toys thoroughly after each use.

  1. Use a condom when sharing insertable sex toys.

In case you don’t already know, condoms can just as easily be used on insertable toys like dildos and penetrative vibrators as they can flesh and blood penises. That said, they’re a great way to make communal sex toy use a lot more hygienic. Just make sure you’re using the right condoms on your toys, as not all of your options are created equally.

Avoid condoms that are lubricated, especially if you’re using a silicone sex toy. The type of lube that’s on these condoms doesn’t mesh well with silicone and can damage it, especially over time. Use latex condoms with your silicone toys instead. If you’d like to use a condom to safely protect and share a porous sex toy, you’ll want to use polyurethane condoms in particular. Otherwise, you risk harming the integrity of your toy.

  1. Don’t mix anal and vaginal use.

Passing a sex toy from person to person isn’t the only way you can expose yourself to infection. It can just as easily happen when you mix anal and vaginal play. Going from vaginal to anal stimulation isn’t as big a deal, but you never want to go from anal to vaginal. Anal bacteria can easily lead to very nasty, very serious infections when allowed to migrate to other areas of the body.

Yes, stopping to clean your toy first is a possible solution. If you’re like most people though, you’re either unlikely to want to stop in the heat of the moment or to do a rush job when it comes to cleaning. For that reason, you might want to consider using a different toy for each hole. Then you can play to your heart’s content without ruining the moment and take care of clean-up later.

  1. Establish a solid cleaning routine for your toys.

We’ve touched on the importance of washing your sex toys after every use when you’re using them with other people. However, it’s just as important to keep things clean and hygienic when you use a toy only on yourself. Sex toys that are washed frequently aren’t just less likely to spread disease. They actually last longer and maintain their integrity better as well.

Always wash every toy after every use. If you want to be extra safe, it’s a good idea to wash a toy before each use as well, especially if it’s been a while since you used it last. It’s easier than you think for your toys to pick up pet hair or lint, especially if you store yours under a mattress or in a bedside table drawer.

  1. Make sure you’re using the right soaps.

Yes, there actually is a “right” type of soap to use when it comes to sex toys. Also, it’s not the antibacterial soap you might think it is. While antibacterial soaps might seem like they make sense, especially if you’re worried about spreading disease, they actually leave a residue behind. Go for mild, unscented dish soap instead. It’s safe enough to trust with the plates you eat from and it’s ideal for cleaning anything that makes contact with your most intimate body parts as well.

You may also want to consider keeping some dedicated sex toy cleaner on hand. It’s simple and convenient to use, as you simply spray it on and wipe it off again. Perfect for remaining discreet if you live with roommates, children, or other family members you don’t necessarily want knowing about your extensive dildo collection! It’s ideal for people that simply don’t like the idea of toting a toy into the bathroom or the kitchen every single time they enjoy a quickie in the middle of the day as well.

  1. Using the right lube is important as well.

Remember when we talked about the importance of not using lubricated condoms on your sex toys? That rule of thumb applies to standard personal lubes as well. Lubes that are silicone-based or oil-based are phenomenal choices for sex that only involves flesh because of the excellent staying power they deliver. However, they’re not good for most of your sex toys.

Lubes that are silicone-based or oil-based lubes actually cling to toys that are made of silicone, jelly, rubber, or similar materials and can break down the surface over time. Go for water-based lubes or hybrid lubes instead. Just be sure to wash your toys all the more thoroughly after use.

  1. Make sure you’re using the right toys for anal play.

While many sex toys are more versatile than you probably realize, it’s especially important to make sure you’re careful when it comes to anal use. The wrong toys can damage the delicate tissue in and around your anal area. It’s also not unheard of for toys to become lost inside you or your partner if you use the wrong options.

Naturally, you don’t want your play sessions to end in tears, an embarrassing emergency room visit, or both, so always make sure you’re using toys that are designed for anal use. They include important safety features (i.e. flared ends) that will prevent them from becoming lost inside the body. They’re usually specially designed to maximize anal pleasure as well, so really, they’re too good to miss out on.

At the end of the day, you want your toy collection to enhance your sex life and make it better in exciting new ways. Making sure to stay safe, smart, and informed is the absolutely best way to do that.

9 Must-Know Secrets for Getting the Most Out of a Romantic Getaway

Whether you’re getting ready to celebrate an extra-special anniversary or simply hoping to plan one last weekend away before the holiday season gets here, it only makes sense that you really want to make your next romantic vacation count. However, all the planning and coordinating any sort of travel requires can mean romance falls by the wayside whether you want it to or not.

Thankfully, a little more planning goes a long way when it comes to making a romantic getaway one to remember. (A willingness to seek out and seize every opportunity to connect certainly doesn’t hurt either!) Here we’ll go over some of the best ways you can make sure your time away has all the sexy sizzle you could possibly hope for. Which ideas have your attention?

  1. Pack with “sexy” in mind.

If you’re going somewhere specifically to connect sexually with your partner, definitely pack outfits that show off your assets in their best light or that you know for a fact your partner likes to see you in. Do the same when it comes to your make-up and your accessories. Looking like a million sexy bucks is the best way to feel sexy as well, so no old sweats or stained t-shirts allowed.

It never hurts to treat yourself to a mini shopping trip before you go either. Pick out some sexy new underwear and treat your beloved to a pleasant surprise the first time they peel your clothes off to get busy. Some slinky new sleepwear makes for a sexy way to show you really mean business when it’s time to turn in for the night as well.

  1. Go the extra mile in the grooming department.

Sure, in a perfect world, we’d never go too long in between waxing sessions or hair appointments, but sometimes “real life” gets in the way despite our best efforts. We sometimes have to cancel appointments or put things off because we need to work late or care for a sick child. Before we know it, it kind of becomes a habit whether we’re OK with it or not.

A romantic getaway with your beloved should be seen as your chance to put love, sex, and romance first for a change. That means getting all spruced up in the grooming department before you go. Make some time to get a little landscaping done that totally reflects your partner’s tastes. Pack that super sexy lotion, body oil, or perfume and make it a point to reapply it often. Don’t forget to pack your grooming kit or a fresh razor so you can maintain the view while you’re away!

  1. Leave the tough topics at home.

We absolutely get it. You’ve finally got some time to talk amongst yourselves like adults without the kids or the office getting in the way, so it might be tempting to hash out a few things you never get a chance to really discuss in depth. However, this is one of the quickest ways to put a damper on the whole romantic vibe you’re trying to cultivate. Plus, nothing puts a damper on an otherwise wonderful vacation away quite like a blow-out argument on the first day.

Do yourselves a favor and leave the tough topics at home with all the rest of your everyday responsibilities. Otherwise it’s too easy for a simple conversation to either cause a fight or set a tone of tension that will potentially spoil the entire trip.

  1. Try something new in the bedroom.

If there’s one thing we can all agree on as far as what’s fantastic about vacations, it’s definitely the way life doesn’t quite feel like reality when we’re away from everything we know. If there’s a better excuse to experiment a little bit more in the bedroom, we can’t think of one! Is there anything you and your partner have talked about trying sexually, but haven’t yet? Take the initiative and make it happen.

Has your partner mentioned pet fantasies that involved role playing or light BDSM in the past? Shop for and pack a sexy costume, choose a couple of fun props for good measure, and make that fantasy come true. Have you talked about experimenting with sex toys, but haven’t gotten around to choosing something to try yet? Set aside some time to pick out something special together before you leave or else you can surprise your partner if you prefer. It’s hard to go wrong with a couple’s vibrator that can be worn while the two of you get down and dirty or a starter kit that allows for numerous possibilities.

  1. Get busy somewhere you might get caught.

Planning ahead is great for before you leave in order to make sure you get the absolute most out of your trip. Once you get there though, it’s a lot better to embrace spontaneity, especially when it comes to sex. If the mood happens to hit you, definitely go with it if at all possible.

Feeling a little randy in the car on the way to your dinner reservation? Give in to the impulse and pull over for a quickie. Hanging out on your balcony, in the hot tub, or even at a sightseeing destination?  Definitely seize the moment and go for the gold. The passion and urgency that rises to the surface when there’s at least a chance you could be interrupted is really too good to be missed.

You can even bring your favorite discreet sex toys into the mix if you’re so inclined. Try dropping a small waterproof bullet vibe into your purse before you leave your hotel room “just in case” you get an opportunity to play. These days, there are even ultra-discreet vibes on the market that look exactly like ordinary lipsticks or mascara tubes. Take advantage of them!

  1. Seize every opportunity to take it all off.

There’s just something so freeing and sexy about being naked. A romantic weekend away from home should come attached to plenty of opportunities to enjoy that feeling too. That said, consider deciding that when and where clothing isn’t necessary, you’re not going to wear it at all. Think downtime spent alone in your hotel room or an afternoon on a private beach!

The constant sight of your lover’s naked body, especially in contexts you don’t always associate with being naked, can’t help but stoke the fires of passion. Plus, spending more time naked yourself is a great way to instantly feel more daring, bold, and adventurous. Strip down and see what happens!

  1. Share as many showers as possible.

Bathing together is an activity that can’t help but foster intimacy no matter where you are. However, roommates, kids, or extended family members perpetually in the vicinity can sometimes mean you don’t have as many opportunities to get steamy together as you’d otherwise like. Again, a romantic getaway is the time to make the most of a golden opportunity whether you’re getting ready to start the day or just rinsing off after a day in the pool.

Consider bringing along a body wash or some bubble bath in a super sexy scent instead of settling for those generic hotel soaps no one really likes. Then treat your lover to a sexy soap-down when it’s shower time and invite them to return the favor. Fun, sexy touches like waterproof sex toys or sensual massage oils to experiment with after you bathe are great ideas as well.

  1. Don’t go out to eat for every meal.

Yes, you should definitely make it a point to try that seafood restaurant that got rave reviews if you’re so inclined, but don’t underestimate the potential of the occasional dinner in. Plan at least one or two nights where you order room service or bring food back to your room to enjoy.

Light some candles and make your way through your meal course by course. Try ordering some exotic menu choices to try or some known aphrodisiacs like oysters, chocolate, or strawberries. Take turns feeding each other and of course wash everything down with plenty of your favorite wine. Just go with the flow and enjoy one another’s company.

  1. Go out of your way to do something you know your partner will love.

Lots of relationship experts buy into the validity of the five love languages – acts of service, touch, quality time, gifts, and words of affirmation. You most likely know by now which of those five is your partner’s language that makes them feel most loved. Go out of your way to do something special for them while you’re away that fits that language.

Do they love nothing more than a thoughtful gift freely given? Surprise them with tickets to a show they really want to see or a romantic souvenir to take home with them. Are they all about physical touch? Definitely make it a point to treat them to at least one lingering massage while you’re there. You get the idea. Don’t be afraid to let your imagination run wild and get creative!

8 Burning Sex Questions You’ve Been Dying to Ask for Years

When it comes to the human experience, it’s completely normal to wonder how other people do things, especially when it comes to a topic as titillating, universal, and important as sex. However, knowing you have an entire collection of burning sex questions you’re dying to have answers to is another. Finding the guts to ask those questions of someone that might actually have the answers is another.

That said, we’re coming to your rescue with some of the most common sex questions both men and women have, but are often afraid to actually ask. We’ll cover everything from sex toys, to common habits, to anal and more.

  1. “Should I be worried about my partner’s interest in porn?”

Here in the 21st century, an interest in porn isn’t necessarily considered a dirty little secret to the extent it might have been in years past. In fact many sex positive people are totally open about their interest in it, sometimes to the point of being willing to discuss what they like in detail with anyone and everyone. However, it’s still understandable to wonder whether or not a partner’s interest in pornography means there’s something wrong with your relationship. Should you worry… and if so, when?

Under most circumstances, an interest in pornography isn’t just normal. It’s healthy, not to mention a great way to get some fun ideas for things to try in the bedroom. Many couples even find they like to watch it together. Unless your partner is consistently choosing porn over real sex or happens to be into material that’s either illegal or excessively violent, it’s nothing to be concerned about.

  1. “Is anal sex actually safe?”

If you’ve yet to explore the wide, wonderful world of backdoor pleasures for yourself, it only makes sense that you’d have a lot of questions about the anal play your partner’s been begging you to try. Is it possible for it to actually feel good (or at least not hurt)? Even more importantly, is it safe to be doing at all?

Actually, yes. Anal is not only totally safe, but it can be super pleasurable if it’s done correctly. Your anal area is incredibly sensitive and rich in nerve endings. However, it’s a good idea to take things slowly until you get used to anal play. Start small with a finger or a small sex toy that’s safe for anal use. Always use plenty of lube. Take things slow and stop if you do actually feel any pain. Plus, always use a condom and never insert anything that’s been in your back door into the vagina afterward without cleaning it first.

  1. “Is there any way I can tighten things up down there?”

If you’re the proud owner of a vagina and wonder from time to time whether or not things are tight enough down there, you’re not alone. Many women feel as if their vagina is too loose for their liking (or their partner’s), especially if they’ve ever given birth vaginally or are simply getting older. Thankfully there are things you can do to make sure yours is as tight as it can possibly be.

Pelvic floor exercises like Kegels can honestly work wonders. To do them, you simply tighten your vaginal muscles the same way you would if you were trying to hold back a stream of urine when you have to pee. Get in the habit of doing a few sets daily. (There are even Kegel apps you can try if you’re so inclined!) Sex toys like Ben Wa balls can be an effective and enjoyable way to take vaginal tone to the next level as well, as any Fifty Shades of Grey fan may already be aware.

  1. “Do I need to worry about her vibrator replacing me?”

When it comes to questions a man might have about his female partner’s vibrator use, this one tops the list by a landslide. His first thought is naturally that he must be doing such a bad job pleasing his mate in the bedroom that she’s had to turn to machinery in order to make up the difference. His second is that he’s now on the bench and no longer needed. In both instances, he’d be dead wrong.

As fantastic as some of the vibrators out there on the market can be, even the best of the best could never replace the real thing. In fact, it should be taken as a good sign that your lady’s in a great place sexually. A woman that’s unafraid to openly use a vibrator is a woman that’s comfortable with who she is as a sexual being. Plus, it’s likely that she’d love to include you when it comes to her next play session. Dildos can bring a lot to the table that a man can appreciate first hand as well. Why not give it a try and see? Better yet, ask your partner to show you.

  1. “How can I get my partner to start using a vibrator?”

On the other side of the spectrum are guys that are not only perfectly fine with the idea of someone they’re with using a vibrator, but would love for their partners to actually get on board. Many men find the idea of her getting off that way to be arousing in and of itself. Others just want to encourage their partners to learn more about their own bodies. Whatever the case may be, they know they like the idea. They just don’t know how to bring it up.

To begin with, there’s a good possibility that she already uses a vibrator (or has in the past). She may also be a lot more open to experimentation than you might otherwise think. The best way to find out is to casually introduce the topic into everyday conversation and see how she reacts. There’s always the possibility that she won’t be on board with the idea at all, but she could be totally excited about it instead. She may also be interested, but a bit bashful about discussing the possibilities. Just talk it out together and communicate.

Vibrator use is by no means needs to be a solo effort either. Some of the most popular vibrating toys on the market were actually designed with couples in mind. Many can even be worn during intercourse to enhance the experience for both partners.

  1. “Where is my G-spot?”

The famous G-spot is something we’ve all heard a lot about. We’ve also heard a thing or two about how earth-shattering a G-spot orgasm can be. But is the G-spot actually a real thing? If it is real, where is it and how should you go about trying to stimulate it? Does every woman have one? Well, allow us to assure you that the G-spot is very real and that if you’re a woman, you absolutely have one. It’s located on the anterior wall of your vagina and yes, it’s every bit as sensitive as the lore would suggest.

The best and easiest way to find yours is to use a vibrator or other sex toy that features a curved end, as it’s actually designed specifically for G-spot stimulation. Insert it so that the curved end is pointing toward the front wall of your vagina. Your G-spot is about halfway between your cervix and the entrance to your vagina. If you or your partner are feeling for it with fingers, you might notice a slight texture difference once you’ve found it.

  1. “Is it really safe to have sex while pregnant?”

When you or your partner are expecting, it’s only natural to worry about giving that new little life the best possible start in life, especially if you’re a first-time parent. A big part of that involves abstaining from anything that might be harmful to your little one. Is sex one of those things? Of course people do have sex while pregnant, but should they?

Unless the pregnancy in question isn’t proceeding normally for whatever reason, it’s perfectly safe to have sex while you’re expecting. It certainly won’t cause a miscarriage or harm the developing baby in any way. In fact, many women experience hormonal surges during pregnancy that can actually send their sexual desire skyrocketing – something too good not to take advantage of.

  1. “Can using sex toys actually desensitize me?”

Those that aren’t on board with the idea of sex toys for men or women tend to claim it’s because they desensitize the user and take away their ability to enjoy sex with a partner. In actuality, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Sure, it’s possible to go a little numb or raw if you’re using your sex toys multiple times a day every day, but that’s the case with plain old-fashioned masturbation or sex as well.

In actuality, using sex toys either on your own or with your partner can potentially enhance your sex life. You learn more about your body and discover more types of stimulation that make you orgasm. Sex toy use can actually make you a better, more attentive lover as well, not to mention open up a whole new world of possibilities when it comes to your existing bedroom repertoire. Why not give it a try for yourself and see?

10 Traits the Sexiest Couples Have in Common

Naturally no two people are going to have the same exact ideas when it comes to what constitutes a good relationship, but there are some things just about everyone can agree are absolute musts. Good sex and plenty of it is definitely one of those. However, sex is often the thing that’s the hardest to get just right when it comes to most relationships, even if the two people involved are a great fit for one another.

Even so, there’s a lot you can learn from observing how those getting it right are doing things. The following are just a few of the most important traits the sexiest, hottest couples tend to have in common. Which ones remind you of yourself and your partner?

  1. They talk openly about sex.

Chances are you’ve already been told by everyone from your mom to the latest issue of Cosmopolitan that communication is the key to a great relationship. While this is certainly true, it’s worth noting that it’s also a big deal when it comes to your sex life.

Great couples sex is everything that it is because the two people involved are not only comfortable talking about sex, but make it a point to do so often. They openly discuss what they like and what they don’t like, as well exchange ideas about things they’d like to try in the future. They’re good about giving their partner kind but informative feedback about sex as well.

  1. They’re super confident.

Confidence really is the key to getting what you want out of life. It’s essential when it comes to getting ahead at work. It makes all the difference when it comes to your social life. It’s hugely important when it comes to your sex life as well, even if you’re with someone you know, love, and are comfortable with.

People that don’t feel confident in themselves and aren’t comfortable in their own skins have a lot less sex as a rule. They may find it hard to be naked in front of their partner or worry about how they look and sound in the throes of passion. If confidence is an issue for you, start looking for ways you can improve the way you feel about your body and yourself in general. It’ll definitely help your sex life.

  1. They spend lots of time together.

Here in the 21st century, people have a tendency to think they can have it all if they just burn the candle at both ends, but in reality the opposite is true. Struggling to maintain a jam-packed schedule with nearly every minute of every day spoken for not only leaves you exhausted, but also leaves you with little time to connect to your partner.

Lack of quality time spent together is the killer of intimacy. Without intimacy, your sex life as a couple will definitely suffer. Even if you lead a really busy life, it’s still essential that you make your partner a priority and spend a bare minimum of 30-60 focused minutes together every single day (and more if at all possible). What you do is up to you and it doesn’t have to be sexual in nature. Even just talking, cuddling, or chatting about a TV show you both like counts.

  1. They have the same sleeping habits.

What’s the usual bedtime routine for you and your partner? Do you typically make it a point to hit the sack together or are there lots of nights when one of you goes to bed while the other stays up working, surfing the web, or watching television instead? If it’s the latter, there’s a good chance it’s part of the reason you’re not having better sex.

Sexual couples that get down and dirty on the regular make it a point to turn in for the night at the same time. Not only does that make sex a lot more likely to happen in the first place, but both partners tend to report greater degrees of happiness with their relationship in all areas.

  1. They love to get creative in the bedroom.

It might be tempting to think that when two people are happy in a relationship, passion in the bedroom just takes care of itself. Actually, nothing could be further from the truth. Sexy couples understand that falling back on the same old positions and the same tired routines eventually leads to emotionless, boring sex.

Instead, they go out of their way to experiment, try new things, and keep things fresh in the bedroom. They’re always on the lookout for new places to have sex and new positions to try. They roleplay. They bring toys into the bedroom and use them in creative ways. They make it a point to stay excited about sex and see to it that their partner feels the same way they do.

  1. They take turns initiating sex.

In the great majority of relationships, the same partner almost always is the one to get the ball rolling when it comes to sex while the other simply decides whether or not they’re up for it. This can quickly lead to boredom and stagnation for obvious reasons. To begin with, no one likes to feel like their partner never desires them enough to actively seek out sex. Also, it’s easy for resentments and frustrations to develop, especially if the initiating partner tends to get rejected a lot.

Couples that are very sexual sidestep obstacles like these by being equally proactive when it comes to initiating sex. They realize that it’s exciting and important both to feel desired by your partner and to be bold enough to be the one to get things started on occasion. They’re also both receptive to the idea of having sex pretty much anytime and anywhere. When both partners not only feel that way, but realize their partner feels the same, sex is both more frequent and more satisfying. Using sex toys such as  fancy vibrators, cock rings or anal lubes and dildos should definitely improve your sex life big time and make it more enjoyable.

  1. They don’t wait to consider sex until they’re “in the mood”.

The average person can probably tell you countless stories about sexual encounters that didn’t happen with a partner because someone wasn’t “in the mood” at that exact moment in time. In relationships where that’s said (or heard) a lot, there’s almost always something lacking in the sex department and with good reason.

Sexy couples know that if you wait for both parties to magically be in the mood at the exact same time, sex really doesn’t happen very often (if at all). This is even more the case once there are high-powered careers, children, or busy social lives involved. Instead of eschewing the idea of sex altogether the next time you’re not “in the mood”, consider seeing if a little foreplay helps you get where you need to be.

  1. They divide responsibilities equally between them.

In case you need any further proof that feminism is a seriously good thing for men and women alike, it’s worth noting that how partners handle shared responsibility can have a huge effect on their sex life. Highly sexual couples tend to divide household chores, childcare duties, and other such responsibilities evenly between them. It’s not simply one partner doing everything alone all the time.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that doing this successfully means doing everything exactly 50/50 and keeping a tally sheet to ensure everything’s equal. It’s really about each individual’s perception of things. In other words, the goal is for both partners to feel like things are equal and fair, whatever that may happen to mean to them.

  1. They consider the afterglow period to be fundamentally important.

Sexual satisfaction doesn’t start and stop at doing it often enough. It’s not necessarily all about orgasm either (although that’s certainly part of the equation). How the two of you spend the post-coital period after you’re finished doing the deed is incredibly important as well, especially when it comes to how you communicate.

Snuggling, kissing, hugging, and other similar activities are actually critical when it comes to nurturing a mutual sense of intimacy and happiness in the relationship. In fact, highly sexual couples tend to place as much importance on the post-coital connection as they do the main event.

  1. They give and take when it comes to pleasure.

Last but certainly not least, sexually satisfied couples will definitely tell you that the real secret to phenomenal sex lies in knowing how to both please and be pleased in return. It’s healthy (and even essential) to be eager to receive pleasure, but it’s important to consider your partner’s needs as well. For instance, lots of people love receiving oral sex but aren’t as interested in giving it or vice versa, eventually leading to problems.

Highly sexual couples love being sexually satisfied. They eagerly accept the pleasure their partner gives and they’re communicative when it comes to what they want. However, they love making their partner lose control and enjoy themselves just as much. Both are fundamentally important when it comes to maintaining a happy, healthy sex life.

10 Taboo Sexual Practices That Are More Mainstream Than You Think They Are

Just about everyone has something they can point to about their sexual self that they fear they’d be judged for if other people knew about it. That said, you’re far from the only one that really enjoys a good spanking once in a while or likes to fantasize about something taboo when you masturbate.

It’s also worth noting that times are seriously changing when it comes to what the average person is not only willing to do in the bedroom, but talk openly about outside of it. The following are just a few sex-related practices that were once considered deviant but are now a lot more mainstream than you might think. The chances are pretty good that if you’re not into a given one, you most likely know someone that is (or wants to be).

  1. Anal Play

Once upon a time, anal was thought of as something incredibly taboo that you tried in the bedroom when you wanted to feel unusually naughty. Naturally, people have been “doing butt stuff” since the beginning of time, but over the past 20-30 years, it’s become a lot more mainstream and with good reason.

Not only does anal sex bring a unique sensation to the table for the insertive partner, but the anus is so rich in sensitive nerve endings that it can be phenomenally pleasurable for the penetrated partner as well. Many people even reach orgasm through anal play alone. Anal toys like butt plugs, beads, and anal vibrators are becoming increasingly popular as more and more people become comfortable with exploring the back door as well.

  1. Bondage and BDSM

All you have to do is consider the explosive success of the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise to understand that BDSM isn’t just something that appeals only to a small group of deviants. It’s not terribly hard to see what’s arousing about pain when you really think about it either. Even something as simple as a spanking can take you back to your childhood and make you feel either humiliated or loved. BDSM is also a safe, fulfilling way to explore themes of control, submission, and trust.

There’s even evidence to suggest that BDSM is actually good for you. People that include it as part of their own sexual repertoires tend to be more open to new experiences and less anxious, paranoid, and neurotic than average. They’re also more likely to feel secure in their romantic and sexual relationships.

  1. Voyeurism

People may be less willing to openly admit they’re turned on by the idea of voyeurism than they are a spanking, but the overwhelming success of the porn industry is living proof that people love to watch. While it’s certainly not advisable to go out and become an actual Peeping Tom, it’s totally natural and normal to be turned on by watching others having sex, undressing, or even simply being naked.

Some of the appeal can probably be traced back to our formative years as children. After all, who didn’t have a parent or a grandparent that stressed sex and nudity were private things for adults only? The natural response is to be curious about what really goes on behind closed doors, even as an adult. Exactly why an increasing number of couples love watching porn together or coming up with ways to integrate voyeurism into their own play sessions!

  1. Lingerie and Costumes

Lingerie is so much more than just a way for a woman to provide her sharpest outfits with the right foundation. It’s also an underrated and extremely common sexual fetish. It’s not just about the skin factor either. Unlike a swimsuit, lingerie is technically something that isn’t meant to be seen by just anyone, lending it a mild but very real taboo factor.

Taking a trip to the lingerie store either by one’s self or in the company of a partner with the intention of finding something to wear in a sexual context is incredibly common. In fact, most of your friends have probably done it, whether or not they’re talking about it. Some are satisfied with the fare at their local Victoria’s Secret, but others enjoy the racier offerings bona fide sex shops have for sale as well. A little costume play certainly never hurt anyone either!

  1. Swinging and Open Relationships

Liking the idea of being with someone other than your mate, seeing your mate with someone else, or both is a lot more common than you might realize. In fact, nearly 90% of swingers are either married or otherwise in a committed relationship. Like BDSM, there’s a case to be made for swinging as something that’s good for you as well. Swingers tend to be happier and more confident in general. Many have happier relationships and are less jealous as well.

Open relationships and polyamory are similarly connected to lower amounts of jealousy in relationships and higher rates of general wellbeing.  Of course, whether or not sharing your partner or opening up your relationship is right for you depends entirely on you, your partner, and what you’re both looking for in a relationship. However, you’re far from alone if that sounds like a welcome alternative to traditional monogamy.

  1. Role Playing

Role playing is the type of thing that sounds like it wouldn’t be anywhere near as widespread as it is, but we’re definitely living in a day and age when it’s common practice. It’s especially common among millennials with scenarios involving being strangers, strippers, and schoolgirls being the most popular. You don’t have to actually be a millennial for your sex life to benefit from a little extra imagination though. Couples of all ages have found roleplay to be an excellent way to spice things up and add a little variety to the mix.

How people roleplay definitely varies from couple to couple. Some people like to limit things to some creative storytelling or dirty talk in the heat of the moment. Others like to go all out with fun costumes, props, and toys. Ultimately, it’s up to you and your partner. Talk things through together, set a date to take your scenario of choice for a test drive, and have fun!

  1. Sex Toys

Saying that there used to be a lot of stigma surrounding the use of vibrators and sex toys is really quite the understatement. They once were thought of as masturbatory aids for lonely, single women that couldn’t reach sexual gratification any other way. Now they’re not only commonly and openly used by women from all walks of life, but they’ve also caught on with men as satisfying ways to add nuance and depth to their own solo sessions.

These days, sex toys are popular for use among couples as well. Not only do the same vibrators and other staples double nicely as toys for couples play, but there are a variety of additional toys on the market designed specifically for use by couples. There are even fantastically technologically advanced toys that can be remote controlled.

  1. Attraction to Older Women

It’s not just women that are attracted to men that are much older and more experienced than they are. Anililagnia is the tendency to be attracted to or aroused by older women and it’s increasingly common among men here in the 21st century. It’s not hard to see why either.

Like older men, older women tend to be a lot more independent and self-assured. They’re more mature in every aspect of life, as well as more experienced both in and out of the bedroom. Men that prefer them find the way they know who they are and what they want to be incredibly attractive, both sexually and mentally.

  1. Sex in Unusual Places

Years ago, sex was to bedrooms as cooking was to kitchens. The bedroom was pretty much always the place you went if you were down to get busy, full stop. People that craved the thrill of having sex someplace new and unusual were widely considered deviants for that reason.

This is far from the case these days. According to research, the desire to have sex somewhere unusual is among the most common sexual fantasies for both men and women. Over 80% of all people apparently fantasize on the regular about getting down and dirty someplace out of the ordinary and quite a lot of people are following through.

  1. Threesomes

Even those that aren’t interested in the idea of full-scale swinging or having an open relationship frequently fantasize about bringing someone else into their bedroom on a temporary basis. According to a recent survey, about 20% of both men and women have engaged in a threesome at least once in their lives. A similar survey conducted just six years prior showed only 10% of people had done the same.

Threesomes are definitely becoming more common as people become increasingly more liberated sexually. Not only are people more comfortable exploring new ground in the bedroom, but the Internet makes it easier than ever before to find potential third parties to explore with. Just one more way the web has revolutionized our lives and made them delightfully convenient!