The Beginner’s Guide to Sexy Intimate Apparel
If you usually think of lingerie as strictly utilitarian, it’s definitely time to think again. Yes, amazing underwear can make you look like a million dollars in your clothing, but if it’s not capable of doing double duty as intimate bedroom attire, you could be missing out on a golden opportunity to add heat and passion to your sex life.
Sexy lingerie isn’t all about looking appealing for your man either. It comes attached to lots of benefit for you as well. Here we’ll go over some of the many reasons your underwear drawer needs a sexy upgrade ASAP if it’s been a while. We’ll cover some tips for choosing the right options for you as well. When you see what a difference a little sex appeal makes, we promise you’ll be glad you gave it a try.
6 Great Reasons to Wear Sexy Lingerie
Choosing sexy, pretty lingerie over boring, purely practical options is the type of thing we all know we should be doing, if not for our partners, than for ourselves… so why aren’t more of us actually doing it? If you’re like most women, you probably tell yourself it doesn’t really make that big of a difference or isn’t worth the expense and hassle. The following are just a few great reasons why you’re wrong.
- It’s an instant confidence booster.
Whether they admit it or not, everyone feels more confident in their own skin when they know they look incredible. Whether or not you’re actually in a relationship, slipping into a scintillating lingerie set is an instant way to feel sexier and more secure in yourself. Even on days when you don’t wear it, just knowing you own it is sometimes enough to help you see yourself as a force to be reckoned with.
- It keeps you feeling feminine.
Here in the 21st century, women expect a lot of themselves. They’re building high-powered careers, raising families, and living full lives in every sense of the word. Busy, full lives don’t always leave us with much time to pamper ourselves though.
Making it a point to wear a sexy corset, a really flattering bra, or a silky teddy that feels amazing against your skin can be a wonderful way to channel your inner goddess no matter how hectic life might get.
- It helps with body positivity.
We get it. You’re not nuts about your stretch marks or your cellulite. And you’re insecure about the breasts you think are too small, not to mention the ass you think is too big. We all have worries like those so you’re definitely not alone. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you need a perfect body to look amazing in lingerie though.
Great quality lingerie is capable of making you look your very best no matter what you think your flaws are. You can easily choose options that disguise problem areas or play up features you like. When you see how hot you look, it’s a lot easier to love your body the way you know you should.
- It shows your partner they matter.
If you’re like a lot of women in long-term relationships, you probably put a lot of effort into your look when you first started dating your partner. If you don’t anymore, you run the risk of that person thinking that they’re no longer worth the effort.
No, your partner shouldn’t love you any less in sweats and a ponytail than they do when you’re all dolled up. However, making it a point to wear pretty lingerie they’ll love seeing you in even on days you dress down can help assure your partner romance is still important to you.
- It’s more affordable than you think.
Pretty lingerie has something of a reputation for being pricey and far too luxurious to invest in with any regularity. In actuality, lingerie has a lot in common with anything else you might decide to treat yourself to. You can get pretty far if you pay attention to sales and think smart when it comes to where you shop.
Think of it as a way to treat yourself to something sexy and romantic for a change, especially if you don’t really splurge on other indulgences like trips to the spa. You’re worth it, your partner is worth it, and your relationship is worth it, right?
- It’s a great way to get you out of your comfort zone.
There’s a lot to be said for stepping out of your comfort zone, especially when it comes to your sex life. “Not being a lingerie person” is really no reason not to give it a try, especially if you know it’s something your partner would really appreciate.
Plus, you might find that you like how sexy and empowered it makes you feel when your partner’s really turned on by the mere sight of you. If that’s the case, you might like taking things a step or two further by experimenting with role play, costume play, or fetish play. You never know what you may decide you really like if you just give it a chance.
Upgrading when it comes to what’s in your underwear drawer is a pretty low-risk way to improve your sex life and feel more empowered in general. Why not give it a try and see where it takes you?
How to Choose the Right Lingerie for You
If you’re new to choosing your intimate wear with sex appeal in mind, it’s understandable if you’re not quite sure where to start. The following tips should help you make sense of the hundreds of options you have at your disposal.
- Prioritize good quality, budget-friendly options.
As is the case with any other type of clothing, quality matters when it comes to your intimate wear. However, great quality lingerie doesn’t necessarily have to break the bank. There are lots of options out there that are inexpensive without actually being cheap or low in quality.
Keep your eye out for sales at your favorite lingerie shops and department stores. They’re great opportunities to find good quality items at awesome prices you can easily afford. Don’t count out your favorite sex toy shop either, especially if you’re looking for something to get your partner’s engine going.
- Pick something that makes you feel sexy.
All body types – from athletic, to petite, to curvy – look amazing in lingerie, so you don’t have to have a certain build in order to wear it. You do need to know what styles flatter your figure and lean toward options that you personally feel really sexy in.
For instance, let’s say you’re particularly self-conscious about your midsection, but love the killer rack you were blessed with. Go for an option like a babydoll that flatters the rack, but disguises the belly you’re not as fond of. If a given pick doesn’t make you feel amazing when you wear it, keep looking until you find something that does.
- Choose something you know your partner will like you in.
If the most important factor when it comes to choosing great lingerie is that it makes you feel sexy, the second most important is definitely that it be something your partner will like. Everyone’s different as far as what really gets them going. The key to success is finding something that fits his preferences, but that you also really like yourself in.
Do you know for a fact that your partner loves garter belts, or thigh-highs, or see-through lace? Factor that into the decision-making process when you’re shopping. If it doesn’t make their jaw drop when they see you in it, you’re missing at least half of the point when it comes to buying it in the first place.
- Pick something that’s practical as well.
And by “practical”, we don’t mean what your mother or grandmother would mean. Ask yourself whether or not what you’re buying will be a hassle or an obstacle when it comes to sexy time. For instance, is it easy to take off, especially in the heat of the moment? Sure, all those straps and buckles on that teddy may look cool, but they could easily turn into an issue if your lover has too much trouble taking it off of you.
You might also want to consider whether or not you can actually have sex in whatever it is. Sure, a nice striptease is always a turn-on, but sometimes so is doing the deed while enjoying the feeling of lace or satin against your skin. For instance, a skintight vinyl cat suit may look awesome, but it’s also going to restrict your movement and be more or less impossible to have sex in. Keep that in mind.
Of course, these pointers are just a jumping off point when it comes to exploring the wide, wonderful world of lingerie and sexy attire. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box and follow your own instincts as well. You just might discover the right sexy look was just the ticket when it comes to re-energizing your sex life and your self-image.