Here in the 21st century, vibrators aren’t just popular. The great majority of women today have either used one or thought seriously about doing so and with good reason. Getting up close and personal with a vibrator is the simplest, most effective way for a woman to get in touch with her body and discover what type of stimulation make her orgasm. Plus, taking charge of one’s own sexual pleasure is just plain liberating.

Most men are aware that their special lady enjoys a few good vibrations once in a while and are increasingly accepting of that fact. However, they naturally have a lot of questions as well. The following are a few your own guy might have asked himself about your relationship with your favorite sex toys. Maybe he’s even asked you a few of them outright.

  1. What is it like to own a sex toy?

Thanks to ingenious offerings like the famous Fleshlight, sex toy use among men is becoming increasingly common and socially acceptable. However, a lot of guys haven’t taken the plunge and have zero idea what it’s like to own a sex toy. Is it something you talk about with your friends or do you have more of a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy? Is it weird to look your boss or parents in the eye knowing that you get down and dirty with a vibrator on the regular? Inquiring male minds want to know!

Of course, any woman that does own and use a vibrator knows it’s really no big deal. As is the case with any other type of sexual activity, some women like to talk openly about their vibrator and how often they use it. Others consider it a private matter. Any man that’s truly curious about what it’s really like to own a vibrator is definitely encouraged to take an option like a vibrating male masturbator for a spin and experience the magic for himself!

  1. Where do you hide it when you’re not using it?

Unless he’s uncovered your go-to hiding place (or you’ve shown him), he probably wonders where on earth you keep something like a vibrator when it’s not “go” time. Do you lock it up somewhere because you’re worried someone else will see it? Do you treat it like a clandestine bag of weed and hide it under your mattress or in the back of a drawer somewhere? Is there a go-to spot every woman keeps her love wands?

It really varies from woman to woman according to her preferences, as well as how many toys she owns. Most women don’t keep their sex toys in plain sight or anything, but they want them within reach in case the mood strikes. Nightstands are popular locations for that reason, although some women really do just keep theirs under the mattress. Those that are serious about their sex toys and have a growing collection might have a dedicated box or toy chest somewhere.

  1. Do you have different vibrators for different moods?

Speaking of sex toy collections, a lot of guys wonder whether women require different vibrators for different types of stimulation. Do you have different makes and models for different moods? Do you go for the same type of stimulation every time you masturbate or do you change things up to keep it interesting? Or do you use a toy every time you’re in the mood to get off or do you sometimes keep it simple and use your hand?

Every woman is different in this regard, of course. One woman might love the idea of being penetrated every single time she masturbates, but others just enjoy clitoral stimulation alone. Some are all about blended orgasms and opt for toys like rabbit vibrators that provide both types of stimulation at once. Still more women enjoy occasional anal play, some nipple stimulation, or even just an old-fashioned “hands only” session. Sure, a woman might start a collection with a variety of toys for every situation, but lots just go for one or two toys that can be used a variety of different ways.

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  1. How do you decide which vibrator to get?

The first time a man gets curious enough about vibrators to visit a sex shop or website to check out the offerings, he’s often overwhelmed at the sheer number of choices available. What does this one do versus that one? Most importantly, how does a woman choose from the many different options she has at her disposal? Is the process of choosing and buying a vibrator something women take their time with or is it more of an impulse buy?

At the end of the day, choosing a vibe is a lot like choosing a cell phone or any other gadget. A lot depends on what a woman is looking to get out of the experience in the first place. Sometimes she chooses a given option because her friends swear by it or she’s heard good things about it. Other times, a given toy just plain looks like it would be fun. Often product reviews factor into her decision. Lots of websites and online sex toy emporiums feature extensive reviews on specific toys, the better to help any shopper make an informed decision they’ll be happy with.

  1. Do vibrators require special care?

It’s natural to wonder if a vibrator requires any special type of maintenance in order to remain in good working order. Do you need to wash a vibrator and if so, how often? Are there any special routines you need to stick to in order to keep it running properly the way you would with a car or a computer?

Vibrators are a lot less complicated than the average guy thinks, so it’s unlikely that they require as much maintenance as he’s picturing. However, they do need to be washed thoroughly after each use. You also want to be careful how you store it and handle it if you’re serious about keeping it in good working order. You have to make sure any lubes you use are compatible with your toy as well.

  1. Is a vibrator better than a penis?

If there’s one question even the most secure man has asked himself about his lady’s vibrator, it’s probably this one. Guys already tend to fear the possibility of not getting the job done in the bedroom. It makes sense that he’d wonder whether his manhood can measure up to a high caliber sex toy with all the bells and whistles.

If you know your man has this concern, assure him that a vibrator, while nice to play with once in a while, isn’t a substitute for the real thing. Women that love men don’t get tired of penis any more than men that love women could get tired of vagina. Toys are simply fun ways to enhance a given play session, not substitutes for an intimate connection with a partner.

  1. Are vibrators just for solo use or can we use it together sometime?

Not every man is in the dark about vibrators. Lots of guys are totally liberated, very comfortable with their partner’s vibrator use, and are relatively secure in the fact that no sex toy is ever going to take their place. If you’re lucky enough to be with a guy like that, you can bet he’s wondered what it would be like to play with your vibrator as a couple. Why not indulge his curiosity sometime and show him how versatile a good sex toy can really be?

Try using your favorite vibe as a learning tool to begin with. Show him how you like to use it on yourself, treat him to a naughty little show, and invite him to get involved. When he’s ready, you can show him how good the vibrations feel against his shaft or scrotum as well.

If he enjoys that experience, consider shopping for some vibrating couple’s toys that you can also use together. Some (like vibrating cock rings) are made to be comfortably worn while the two of you do the deed, to enhance intercourse for both of you. Others (like vibrating bullets) are perfect for getting creative as far as how, where, and when you stimulate each other during your play session. Don’t be afraid to get creative!

At the end of the day, sex toys – including vibrators – are far from being only for women. The right options can take sex play from good to spectacular for absolutely everyone including men and couples. Start expanding your horizons today!