When you hear foreplay discussed, it’s most often in regards to how important it is for women. However, while this is certainly true, it’s important to realize foreplay comes attached to benefits for men as well. Foreplay helps to build and maintain intimacy between partners, both in and out of the bedroom. It can help make sure sex is as exciting and fulfilling as possible, for both parties.
If you’ve been looking for ways to improve your game when it comes to foreplay, then you’ve come to the right place. The following are some excellent places to start. Don’t be afraid to brainstorm and get creative as well. Try any of these fun tips along with your favorite sex toy. Anything goes!
- Give some consideration to your hair.
The human scalp is positively packed with nerve endings. That’s exactly why it feels so good when someone runs their fingers through your hair or when your hairstylist treats you to your regular shampoo. That said, bringing your hair, as well as your partner’s into the mix is a great idea when it comes to foreplay.
Try getting into the bath or shower together and taking turns washing each other’s hair or giving each other scalp massages. Running your fingers through each other’s silky strands is a huge turn-on while kissing or making love as well.
- Know where to touch each other’s legs.
Did you know that your legs have several erogenous zones that are well worth paying attention to during foreplay? It’s true! They include the backs of the knees, the ankles, and the toes. Take time to pay attention to these areas during foreplay.
Start with sensual foot massages that escalate to kissing or nibbling. (Licking and sucking are also pleasurable to many people.) Start at the toes and make your way up. What you do when you reach the top of your partner’s legs is up to you.
- Get up close and personal with the ears.
Like many other body parts, the patch of skin just behind the ear is incredibly sensitive, so it’s well worth stimulating during foreplay. (Some people have even been brought to orgasm by this stimulation, although no worries if you’re not one of them.) Try teasing your partner with gentle kisses to this area, following by a little nibbling on the earlobe. Then encourage them to return the favor by doing the same to you.
- Don’t neglect the back.
When most people picture their back, they don’t necessarily think of being touched in a sexual manner. That said, the back is one of the most often overlooked areas when it comes to foreplay. However, focusing your attention here with a massage, a kiss, or some gentle stroking can really get your engine going. Best of all, it’s easy to engage in this kind of touch while also stimulating the person with a vibrator or gently stroking them between their legs. A fun vibrator can really enhance the pleasure here.
- Give your partner’s tummy some love.
Most of us tend to hide our stomachs for any number of reasons, be they stretch marks, love handles, or just plain old modesty. This is only part of the reason why we also sometimes enjoy being touched in a sensual or sexual manner there.
Try leaving your insecurities about any imperfections at the door and letting your partner touch, kiss, or caress you there. Lie back and enjoy it. Then return the favor and enjoy the way your partner responds.
- Get to know the armpits.
You may already be aware of how sensitive your pubic area is, not just when it comes to the business bits, but anywhere hair happens to grow. Your armpits are sensitive in the exact same way, so they’re worth exploring when it comes to foreplay.
Try kissing, nibbling, or gently blowing on the skin around your partner’s armpits. This area also responds well to different temperatures, so it’s a great canvas for experimentation with ice cubes, warming lotions, and more.
- Become an expert at stimulating the neck.
Many people love being kissed, touched, or caressed on or near their neck. In fact, it can literally send shivers running up and down your spine (but in a good way). This is because it’s attached to nerve endings that reach clear down to your genitals. That said, it’s a great place to focus some of your efforts during foreplay.
Any kind of touch you and your partner favor works well here. Try starting by stroking gently with the fingertips. Then escalate the stimulation with kisses, nibbles, or gentle sucking. You can do this while you stimulate your partner in other ways as well.
- Tease your partner by knowing where to stimulate their torso.
Most of us enjoy touching our partner’s chest or nipples when it comes to foreplay, but it’s important not to miss out on some of the other sweet spots. Take that v-shaped area just between the hip bones but above the groin, for instance.
This area is extremely sensitive, as well as fun to stimulate because of its close proximity to the genitals. Try teasing your partner by kissing or touching them there, but without going anywhere else (at least not yet).
- The hands (and fingers) have it.
The hands and fingers are among the most sensitive, nerve-rich areas of the human body. That said, they don’t just like to touch during foreplay and sex. They like to be touched as well. This makes them a shoo-in for lots of foreplay action.
Try treating each other’s hands and fingers as proxies for the genitals. Show each other exactly how you’d like to stimulate their penis or vagina by doing the same thing to their fingers and hands. Stimulating, kissing, or sucking your partner’s fingers during sex can also be a major turn-on.
Of course, these are far from the only ways to get your engine, as well as your partner’s, going in a major way. Don’t be afraid to get creative. Definitely don’t be afraid to ask your partner to touch you in ways that you think might feel nice. You’ll both love the experience of discovering one another.