Whether you’re a woman looking to have better quality orgasms yourself or an attentive lover looking to keep their female partner well-satisfied, you probably don’t need to be told that achieving a genuinely excellent female orgasm is an art form. Yes, it takes patience and finesse to master, but it’s undoubtedly a skill you can learn and master with enough practice.
Plus, the type of orgasm that truly curls your toes is too good to miss out on, whether you’re the giver or the receiver. So here are some tried-and-true tips to get you started in the right direction. You’ll be having bigger, better orgasms – and more of them — before you know it.
1. Experiment with timing.
If you’re a woman, you may have noticed that some of your orgasms are drastically more intense and satisfying than others for reasons you can’t quite put your finger on. It may have something to do with your body’s natural fertility cycle.
A woman’s libido is usually at its strongest during or near ovulation, so it’s worth experimenting with timing to maximize the strength of your orgasms. Just make sure to use proper contraception if you’ll be chasing that orgasm with a partner and aren’t looking to conceive.
2. Don’t skimp on the foreplay.
Many people, women included, have a terrible habit of rushing through foreplay to get to the main event, and they’re paying the price with their orgasm quality. Taking the time to make sure you’re genuinely, thoroughly aroused before moving on to whatever’s on the main agenda for the evening is always worth your while, even if you’re going solo.
Female arousal is about a lot more than just getting wet. Not only does proper vasocongestion need time to occur in the pelvic region, but muscular tension needs to build throughout the rest of the body, as well. Finally, the brain gets involved, as well, lighting up in all the right areas. Together, these things add up to the killer orgasms you’ve been waiting for.
3. Don’t forget the lube, either.
Many people make the mistake of thinking personal lubricant is strictly something to keep on hand “just in case”, but they really shouldn’t. Sure, a little lube can work wonders when Mother Nature isn’t really coming through in that department, but you’re really missing out if that’s the only time you reach for yours.
Adding lube to the mix can help aid arousal, increase excitement, and ensure every sensation is as intense as possible. You can also experiment with specialty lubes that are flavored and scented for a more sensual experience. There are lubes out there designed to warm, cool, or gently numb a partner for a longer-lasting experience, as well.
4. Invest in a good toy or two.
Every woman should own at least one good vibrator, especially if she has trouble reaching orgasm consistently. Vibrations provide stronger, more intense stimulation than you’d get using just traditional skin-to-skin friction. In addition, they’re great tools for learning how your body best experiences pleasure, discovering what sensations you like most, and so forth.
Different types of vibrators are designed to deliver distinct sensations. Some focus on the external clitoral stimulation most women rely on to reach orgasm, while others target and stimulate the G-spot. Still, more are designed to activate both of your hot zones for phenomenal, blended orgasms you’ll have to experience to believe.
Vibrators aren’t just for solo use, either. Wearable couple’s vibrators, vibrating cock rings, and other similar options make sex more pleasurable and exciting for both people, so it’s well worth taking a few for a spin to see what happens.
5. Make sure your workout includes Kegels.
Nothing adds up to earth-shattering orgasms quite like a solid pelvic floor, and Kegels are the key to getting yours into tip-top condition. It takes more than just a quick squeeze or two whenever it crosses your mind to make a difference, though. Regular Kegels, on the other hand, can elevate your sex life in multiple ways. Not only will your orgasms become more robust, but you’ll feel tighter to your partner, as well.
Many women simply add their Kegels to their regular workout routine to make staying consistent easier. But others enjoy using toys like Ben-Wa balls or vibrating Kegel eggs to make things a bit more interesting (and pleasurable).
At the end of the day, incredible orgasms happen when you invest in your pleasure. So, take the initiative to get to know how your body most likes to be touched, give yourself time to become adequately aroused, and get comfortable communicating what you learn about yourself to your partner so they can help you get the most out of your play. You’ll both be glad you did!
