Whether you and your beloved are currently apart thanks to pandemic-related travel restrictions, hectic work schedules, or temporary living arrangements that are less than ideal, one thing’s for sure. Being apart physically when you don’t want to be is hard, especially in the sex department.
But keeping your relationship smoking hot when you’re apart, isn’t impossible. It’s simply a challenge, and all you need to overcome it is a little creativity. Here’s a look at some good ideas worth considering.
Use technology to your advantage.
Thanks to the ubiquity of technology, you’re never more than a few taps away from your next conversation with your partner. But there’s no need to wait until your next scheduled Facetime session to reach out and get in touch with your beloved. Texting and instant messaging are fantastic ways to stay in communication even when one or both of you is busy with other things.
Text is a great way to keep the conversational chemistry between you nice and spicy, as well. Don’t be afraid to surprise your partner with a steamy recollection of a particularly sexy encounter the two of you had, just to see where it goes. And sending a few sexy selfies as a surprise for them to find when they’ve got a minute doesn’t hurt, either.
Go long-distance shopping for lingerie.
Sometimes the experiences you miss the most when you’re away from your partner are the little things – everyday experiences that were just always more fun when they were along for the ride. Shopping trips are just one example, but mobile technology can be a creative way to share the experience regardless of the distance between you.
Does your partner absolutely love seeing you in sexy lingerie? Take a trip to your favorite intimate wear store, send your lover fitting room pictures of you trying on different options, and ask them to weigh in on their favorites. Promise them you’ll wear their favorite pick for them on their first night back or stage a sexy photoshoot in it when you get home.
Put together a steamy care package.
If you and your beloved will be apart for an extended period, then a personalized care package might be in order. If they’re the one who’s away, they’re bound to get a little homesick for certain things. So, build the foundation of your package from personal items that really show you care and know them well – like a batch of their favorite homemade cookies or some little treats that are hard to find in the stores where they are.
And you can include a few spicier items, as well. Buy two copies of a steamy erotic novel, put one in their care package, and include a note letting them know you’ll be reading your copy while thinking of them. If you’re into using toys together, include something new for them to experiment with – something tech-enabled that lets you control the action at a distance or sync the toy up with another you have at home. Be creative!
Go the extra mile with photography.
Embracing the power of photography is one of the best ways to keep your relationship smoking, even at a distance. There’s nothing sexier than looking at a sultry photo of your lover, savoring their come-hither expression, and knowing you’re the reason for that sexy smirk on their face. And taking pictures is a fun, empowering way to embrace your sexiest self, as well.
There’s no need to stop at random naughty selfies sent over text unless you want to, though. Why not stage a more elaborate shoot complete with great lighting, props, silky lingerie, and the whole nine yards? Compile your favorites into a calendar or collection to send to your lover. Professional boudoir shoots can be fun, sexy treats you’ll both enjoy, as well.
Add some steam to your scheduled Skype dates.
Many couples enjoy planning e-dates to make evenings apart a little more fun, and you and your beloved probably aren’t any different. And while there’s nothing wrong with the occasional PG-rated hangout or planned X-rated tryst, there’s just something about spontaneous steam that “just happens” as the evening progresses.
Try planning a long-distance movie night that includes a sexy favorite you both like – like Basic Instinct, 50 Shades of Grey, or 9 ½ Weeks, to name just a few examples. Then, watch it together while connected over Skype, let the sexy banter flow, and see what happens.
Naturally, these are just a few basic ideas to get your creative juices flowing, but don’t be afraid to think of others on your own or turn to your partner for suggestions of their own. With an active imagination in your corner, distance is only a sexual obstacle if you allow it to be, so don’t be afraid to let yours run a little wild.