Watching and enjoying porn probably isn’t a new thing for you if you’re like most people. But doing it proudly, openly, and with your partner along for the ride just might be. These days, more and more people are discovering that while porn might be great alone, it can be even better when shared with someone you love.
But is watching porn together the right choice for your relationship? What are the best ways to bring the topic up for discussion, and what are the benefits of moving forward with things? Here’s a closer look at everything you need to know.
Why Watch Porn Together
Some people truly are more comfortable keeping their private fantasy lives to themselves. But the idea of letting your partner in on things (and maybe getting a peek into their private life, as well) can be a real turn-on. Here are some of the biggest benefits of sharing porn as a couple.
It’s a surefire way to get in the mood
Although it’s great when the two of you find yourselves wildly horny and raring to go at the same time, that’s unfortunately not always how it works. It can be helpful to have a go-to way to really get in the mood in a pinch.
If you’re already a porn lover, then you already know how effective it can be for getting your engine running in a flash. It can be just as effective with your partner along for the ride.
It can fuel your creativity
Even people who are madly in love sometimes need a little help in the idea department when it comes to sex. This is especially the case if they’ve been together a while or lead really busy lives, which can make it hard to prioritize sex.
Naturally, porn should be taken with a grain of salt, as much of what you see isn’t representative of reality. But it can still be wonderful inspiration for real ideas – new positions to try, fresh ways to bring sex toys into play, and more.
It provides a safe way to explore certain fantasies
There are two types of fantasies a person can have. The first kind translates well into real life. But the second kind is often better left in fantasy land, and with good reason. For example, take threesomes. While some couples may be down for trying one out for real, many others don’t like the idea of sharing their partner with someone else.
Porn can provide a very effective safe space for exploring fantasies like those without putting your relationship, safety, or emotional well-being at risk.
Porn can also help spark intimate discussion about topics like fantasies, turn-ons, and more, bringing the two of you closer together in the process.
How to Talk About Porn with Your Partner
So, let’s say you’ve considered all the possibilities, and you’ve definitely decided you’d like to try watching porn with your partner. What’s the best way to bring it up for discussion and open a dialogue? Here are some tips to keep in mind.
Make sure you have the right connection
Although there’s no right or wrong timeframe for asking a partner to watch porn with you, people are generally more open to the idea when they have an established, healthy connection with someone. That said, this may not be the right thing to do if you’re going through a rough patch or getting comfortable in a relationship that’s still brand new.
Know what you hope to get out of the experience
Anytime you’re looking to introduce something new into your sexual routine and need to speak to your partner about it, it helps to be clear on why you want to try it in the first place.
Do you want to watch porn with a partner as a way to share a fantasy or kink you’re struggling to talk about? Are you hoping to feel turned on, connected, inspired, or something else by watching together? It helps to know the answers to questions like these before starting a discussion.
Don’t forget to discuss boundaries
So let’s say you do start a dialogue and your partner is totally down to give watching porn together a try. As with anything else new you want to try in your sex life, you want to set some boundaries before you begin.
Are there specific acts, stereotypes, scenarios, or behaviors that are strictly off-limits for either of you? What about categories or types of porn that especially appeal to one or both of you? Figure out where your boundaries are before you start, and respect them throughout your experience.
Once you’ve tried watching porn together, be sure to thoroughly discuss the experience afterward. Did you like it? Did the experience meet your expectations or fall short? Is this anything you’d want to do again? There are no wrong answers. Just talk things through, and take it from there.
