If you feel like you’ve been hearing a lot about pegging lately, it’s not your imagination. Pegging is having a major moment right now, so it’s not surprising that many adventurous couples are thinking about giving it a try for the first time. However, like a lot of new and unusual bedroom moves, you’ll have a much better time if you know what you’re doing first.
What is pegging really all about, and why do so many men love it? How can you be sure pegging is right for you and your partner, and what do you need to know to make sure your first time isn’t a disaster? Here’s a look at everything you need to know to get started on the right foot.
What Is Pegging and Why Do Men Love It?
If you’ve heard of pegging, but aren’t sure what it is, it’s basically a form of strap-on sex. To be more specific, it’s when a couple – one with a vagina and the other with a penis – decides to use a strap-on to swap roles. People of all gender identities and sexual orientations have the potential to enjoy pegging, so how you or your partner identify doesn’t make it right or wrong for you. It’s all about how the two of you feel and what turns you both on.
What makes pegging so darned incredible is the prostate gland. Also known as the P-spot, the prostate is located just a few inches inside the anal cavity and can deliver intense pleasure when stimulated just right. It’s also sexy, hot, and psychologically exciting for the penetrator to experience penetration for a change and vice versa.
How to Bring Up the Subject of Pegging
Very adventurous couples who are already in the habit of engaging in open sexual dialogue may have an easier time bring up something like pegging for discussion. Other people may feel a bit more bashful about the idea, though. They know they like the idea, but they’re worried their partner might not feel the same and aren’t sure how to bring it up.
One innocuous way to feel your partner out in advance is to bring it up in a lighthearted way. Start a conversation about an article you read about it or a scene in a movie where it may have happened. Gauge your partner’s reaction. If they seem intrigued or eager to discuss the subject further, go ahead and roll with it.
The partner on the receiving end of strap-on play must be comfortable with it. (If he’s the one who brings it up in the first place, even better.) Many men aren’t on board with the idea, and they should say so if that’s the case. However, the partner who’ll be on the giving end can emphasize how good it will feel to trigger some interest. Just talk things out together in a judgment-free zone.
How to Have a Great First Experience
Everyone’s different as far as how they like to peg, so you’ll eventually find your groove with some practice. Here are some things first-timers will want to keep in mind, though.
1. Don’t overdo it in the size department.
Don’t merely assume that bigger is better, especially when the person on the receiving end is new to pegging. You don’t need a massive monster of a strap-on to stimulate the prostate, so err on the side of smaller to start with. If you don’t already have a strap-on, go shopping together to make sure you get something you’re both comfortable with.
2. Be generous with the lube.
Anytime you’re indulging in anal play, there’s no such thing as too much lube. Make sure you have an ample supply on hand when you’re ready to try pegging. For best results, try an extra-thick formula made specifically for backdoor action. If the receiving partner is nervous about discomfort, there are even numbing formulas that can take a lot of the edge off.
3. Ease into things a little.
Don’t just strap on and head straight to Pound Town right away. Anytime penetration is involved, especially of the anal variety, a little warm-up is a good idea. Start with some standard foreplay. When you’re both ready, shift your focus to his anal area. Penetrate with a finger or a small anal-safe toy first. Graduate to the strap-on once he’s primed and ready.
Beyond those things, make sure to keep the lines of communication wide open. Tell each other when something feels good (or not). Aim for a playful, sexy mood. Strap-on play can be a highly erotic, thrilling way to switch things up in the bedroom. Have fun, be creative, and just plain have a good time with it!
