You’d be hard pressed to find any woman that doesn’t care about her own pleasure. Naturally, we all like to feel desired, we like to be satisfied, and we like our partners to really want to rock our worlds. However, there’s just something about knowing you have what it takes to drive your man so wild he can barely think straight as well.
To begin with, having control of the reigns when it comes to his pleasure and desires can be a real rush. Plus, it’s always satisfying to know you and you alone are what does it for him at the end of the day. That said, if you’re looking for some tried and true tips that are sure to drive him wild, look no further!
1. Don’t be shy about putting your mouth to good use.
Trust us when we say there are very, very few guys out there that don’t love a little oral action. That said, putting your mouth where the money is (so to speak) is a pretty surefire way to send him hurtling toward his boiling point in a hurry.
Keep in mind that men are visual creatures, so you’ll turn him on even more if you give him a good view of the action. After taking off his sexy unique underwear, instead of burying your head when it’s time to get down there and get to work, let him watch what you’re doing to make it even more exciting.
If you’re feeling really bold, feel free to look him right in the eye while you’re enjoying him. Don’t worry about it if you’re shy though. Men like it just as much when you close your eyes in ecstasy and moan a little so that they know how much you like pleasuring them. And you could take advantage of some sex toys that you can both enjoy. After all, everyone enjoys feeling a little worshipped from time to time!
2. Make sure he spends the whole day with you on his mind.
A little anticipation never hurt anyone when it comes to sex. In fact, it can go a long way toward making things positively explosive when it’s finally go time. That said, ensure your man is as eager as possible to get home to you at the end of the day by teasing him all day long.
Start with a little flirtation over breakfast and a quick but strategic caress as he’s on his way out the door. Then remind him of what’s waiting for him upon his return by treating him to some naughty texts while he’s at work. (Feel free to include a few R-rated pictures for good measure.)
Just make sure you send racy emails, messages, or pictures to his personal cell instead of a work computer or shared interface. After all, no one wants the experience of having their boss or coworkers see such things!
3. Take your time.
Lots of guys may think they want to rush straight to the main event, but yours is sure to change his mind when he finds out how pleasant it can be to be teased a little first. After all, pleasure is that much more intense when it has a chance to build for a while first.
Before you cut to the chase, spend some time gently kissing his chest. Throw in some tongue action as you slowly work your way down. Once you get below the waist, tease him even further by spending some time kissing and caressing his inner thighs. Nothing drives a man wild quite like having your mouth so close to his money spots without actually touching them. He’ll be begging you to go further. Try it and see!
4. Make one of his fantasies come true.
Every guy has a fantasy that they’d secretly like to see come true someday and yours is no different. In fact, the chances are pretty good that he’s told you a little bit about one of his. Does he secretly want to be dominated by a sex kitten dressed in head to toe black vinyl? Does he dream of getting it on in public? Is he into some variation of the classic school girl fantasy?
Choose one of his favorites and surprise him by making it happen. Here are some amazing tips for exploring role play in the bedroom. He’ll hardly be able to contain himself. Who could when something they’ve dreamed about for years is suddenly made reality right before their very eyes?
5. Don’t be shy about taking matters into your own hands.
Most men love nothing more than to see a woman taking charge of her own desires. That said, the next time you’re working on stoking your lover’s fires, consider spending a little energy on your own as well. Not only will it get him hot, hot, hot, but you’re also showing him exactly how you like to be touched. It won’t be long before he wants to show you how much he’s learned!
Don’t be afraid to bring your favorite sex toys into the mix as well. Show your man how you like to take care of yourself when he’s not around by giving him a lesson in Vibrator 101. Alternatively, you could have him choose a toy out of your private stash and invite him to use it on you. Anything that offers a man a private look into his lady’s solo sex life can be a serious turn-on!
6. Treat him to a strip tease.
Do you love it when all eyes are on you? Is there a part of you that longs to channel your inner Dita Von Teese? Why not treat the special man in your life to a strip tease? Pick a night and sit him down in a chair. Turn on some seductive music and go to town, seductively removing one piece of your genuine dancewear at a time.
Don’t forget to randomly touch him from time to time. Get behind him and run your fingertips through his hair or along his shoulders. Let your legs, ass, or breasts “accidentally” brush up against him while you’re dancing close. If you think he’d be game, you can even tie his hands behind him to build the anticipation that comes with wanting to touch you, but not being able to.
7. Treat your lady parts to a good workout.
The stronger the muscles in your nether regions, the better sex has the potential to become, not just for your partner, but for you too. All you have to do is dedicate yourself to developing your kegel muscles. Then give him a good squeeze at just the right moment when he’s inside you.
Not sure how to build kegel strength? It’s easy. Just contract the same muscles that come into play when you’re trying to stop yourself from peeing. Hold the tension for a count of 3-5 seconds. Release. Then repeat ten times in a row. Try to do this a few times a day and it won’t be long before you both notice a big difference.
Alternatively, you can purchase a set of vaginal balls to really up your kegel game. Ben-wa balls are designed to be inserted into the vagina. As you work to hold them in place, you strengthen your kegel muscles considerably. You can even insert them and walk around if you want to give yourself even more of a challenge.
8. Sit down and watch a little porn with him.
If your man is like most, he likes to watch porn and probably does so relatively often. Some women allow this to upset them, but they really shouldn’t. Trust us when we say he doesn’t secretly wish you looked (or behaved) just like his favorite porn actresses. He’s visual and he enjoys looking at sexual images.
That said, an easy way to score points with most men, not to mention turn them on, is to express interest in sitting down and watching porn as a couple. If you really want to blow his mind, have him put on one of his favorite clips with the understanding that the two of you will be acting out what’s going on on-screen. Then mimic everything the girl is doing, right down to the moans of pleasure. Your guy won’t be able to control himself!
9. Bring some new angles into play.
The only thing hotter than an incredibly steamy sex session is getting to watch the action at the same time from multiple angles. The best way to do this is mirrors and lots of them. Have him take you from behind in front of a mirror so he can enjoy simultaneous views of your ass and your face as you enjoy yourself. Put a mirror on the ceiling so he can watch you riding him from two different vantage points at once.
No need to install so many that your bedroom reminds you of a carnival funhouse. Just put a few here and there in areas where you know they’ll deliver. Super reflective surfaces work just as well.
Of course, these are just a few of the ways you can really light his fire. Don’t be afraid to get creative when it comes to dreaming up even more!