Whether you’re single, in a new relationship, or several decades married, sex is the key to maintaining a solid connection to your partner and yourself. But even the sexiest, most passionate people sometimes feel as if their repertoire has become a little routine and need a little refresh of their sex life.
However, that’s nothing a few new ideas and a willing spirit can’t fix. And there’s no time like the warm, sunny spring and summer months to branch out a little and explore some new territory. Here are a few suggestions to get you started in the right direction.
1. Take things outside.
After months of being cooped up indoors because of the cold, it only makes sense that you’d want to spend more time outdoors soaking up all the abundant sunshine. Why not keep your eyes open for fun opportunities to get a little frisky with your partner at the same time.
How far you go is up to you. You can keep things PG-rated with a little PDA and perhaps a naughty whisper or two the next time you’re out and about together. Or you can try getting down and dirty on the beach, in your backyard, in the woods, or anywhere else that sounds good. Just be careful not to get caught.
2. Create a fantasy to-do list.
If you’re like many people, you probably start making a spring and summer to-do list the minute the weather starts warming up and the days get longer. Why not try making a second list this year and filling it with fun fantasies to try out before the end of the summer?
Take turns brainstorming items to add to the list. They can be pet fantasies you’ve always wanted to explore, naughty favorites you’d like to revisit, or options that are entirely new to both of you. Make a game out of it, and enjoy it!
3. Get a room… literally.
There’s just something about the sex you have when you’re away from home, isn’t there? Even when the weather’s nice and you’re making plenty of time for yourselves, everyday life still has a way of intruding when you want it to the least. Your boss wants you to work overtime, or maybe family responsibilities demand more of your energy.
Getting out of town for even a little while can really make a difference. So, take some vacation time if you can. Get away for a while so you can focus solely on each other for a while. And if that’s not possible, get creative. Even a single night at a local hotel or bed-and-breakfast can work wonders.
4. Watch some porn together.
While not everyone likes porn, most people do tend to partake occasionally. They’re just more likely to do so in private, either for its own sake or to help things along when they’re masturbating. If that’s the case for you and your partner, why not make this year the year you try watching porn as a couple?
Since porn is one of those things people usually do privately, doing it with your partner along for the ride can feel deliciously naughty. It’s also a huge turn-on, not to mention an excellent opportunity to learn more about each other’s pet fantasies. It may even bring you closer together as a couple than before.
5. Try a couples’ toy.
If you’ve never tried using a sex toy together, it’s high time you gave it a try. And if toys are already part of your routine, why not try experimenting with a toy designed especially for couples? They’re an incredible way to explore new sensations together. They take a lot of the guesswork out of having (or giving) an orgasm, as well.
Start with a wearable option that’s easy to integrate into your existing routine, like a vibrating cock ring or U-shaped couples’ vibe. And if you like what that does for your sex life, make it a point to go shopping for your next toy together.
6. Get creative with timing.
The next time life starts demanding a lot from either of you, why not try working with the chaos instead of fighting it? Not only does mixing things up as far as timing make it easier to find time for sex, but it’s also a simple and enjoyable way to keep things exciting.
Instead of hoping you’ll have the energy left to get it on before bed, why not do it first thing in the morning instead or share a shower so you can partake in a quickie? Lunchbreak sex and sex at other unfamiliar times can be lots of fun, too.
Ultimately, keeping your sex life exciting is about making it a priority and being creative. And while spring and summer aren’t the only times to try that, they’re as good a reason to change things up as any. So, what are you waiting for? Grab your partner and get started!