It probably goes without saying that you absolutely love your favorite sex toy and with good reason. Vibrators, stimulators, dildos, and more can be absolute game-changers when it comes to getting to know your body better. They can teach you how you really need to be touched if orgasm is the ultimate goal. They’re empowering ways to take control of your own pleasure as well.
Even so, a lot of people still have their fears as to how using a vibrator might affect an existing or future relationship. Is it possible for a vibrator to “ruin” you to the point where you can’t properly respond to a partner? Should you be worried about becoming addicted to your favorite sex toys? Is it OK to be open with a partner about using a sex toy or is it something that ought to be kept private? Let’s put your curiosity to rest and go over how sex toys actually affect relationships.
How Sex Toys Actually Change Your Sex Life
Let us start by assuring you that if you love your vibrator, you’re the very furthest thing from alone. Around half of all women between the ages of 18 and 60 have used one at one point or another. Many of those women would even describe their vibrators as absolute game changers and rightly so.
Your sex life definitely changes for the better in a number of exciting new ways when you start using a sex toy. However, none of them are negative as we would define the word. The following are just a few examples. Have you noticed any of the following happening for you yet?
You’ll get to know your body a whole lot better
While orgasms are usually the reason a woman eventually decides to pull the trigger on her first vibrator purchase, they’re only one way your connection to your own body will improve. Yes, you’ll almost definitely become a master at achieving the big O, but you’ll also learn a lot about how your body actually works.
You’ll figure out what you really like and don’t like when it comes to sexual stimulation. You’ll also become familiar with how your various parts are actually shaped and discover where your sweet spots are. Not only will you develop a better understanding of how to please yourself, but you’ll be able to pass that info along to a partner as well, which brings us to our next point.
You’ll have better sex with your partner
The belief that vibrators and other sex toys are substitutes for a healthy, active sex life with a partner isn’t just outdated. It’s also completely untrue. Sex toys are designed to enhance your sex life and make it better, whether or not you’re currently in a sexual relationship with someone else, and they often do exactly that.
We’re not just talking about the way an awesome vibe leads to useful knowledge about your own sexual response either. Sex toys can totally be incorporated into partnered play as a way to explore new sensations together. Assuming your partner is game, adding sex toys to your repertoire can mean better, more satisfying sex for the both of you.
Your health might improve
You should check any worries about sex toys being bad for your health at the door as well. There’s actually data out there that links vibrator use to better sexual health. According to one study, women that use vibrators were significantly more likely to have seen a gynecologist in the last year. They were more likely to report satisfactory sexual function, adequate natural lubrication, and healthy sex lives overall as well.
Women that are comfortable with their bodies and in control of their own sexual pleasure are more likely to prioritize their sexual health and take care of themselves the way they know they should. They’re more likely to notice if something’s amiss right away and to understand the importance of regular check-ups. Also, orgasms can help improve your energy levels, give your skin a healthy glow, and boost overall mood – all things that contribute to better full body health.
And just so you know, there’s absolutely no evidence to suggest that vibrators deaden nerve endings or cause numbness. You won’t lose the ability to respond to your partner in the bedroom to the same extent you always have either. Sex toys actually help you become more sexually responsive, not less, so go ahead and get your buzz on! It’s not only a healthy way to express your sexuality, but a pretty darned reliable way to improve your sex life as well.
How Sex Toys Can Make Sex Even Better
It’s a common misconception that all men are intimidated by a woman’s sex toy. Modern men are actually pretty well-informed when it comes to how common sex toy use really is. Most have absolutely no problem with the idea of their partner using one either. In fact, quite a few actually encourage it or feel turned on at the idea of a woman taking her pleasure into her own hands. An increasing number of men even love using sex toys themselves, both with their partners and on their own.
That said, it’s completely up to you if you’d rather keep the existence of your sex toy just between you and your nightstand. You might be surprised at what opening up about it can do for your sex life though, especially if the two of you decide to start using toys together as a couple. Let us count the ways!
You’ll instantly spice things up
Even the closest, most loving couples sometimes need a little help in the spice department and sex toys can be a great way to add some. Toys open up an entirely new world of possibilities to explore together. You can take brand new sensations for a spin or touch on creative ways to improve what you already like.
Since sex toys don’t start and stop at classic vibrators, it’ll be a while before you run out of new options to try together. You can keep things relatively tame with remote control toys or vibrating cock rings. You can totally push some boundaries with anal toys, BDSM gear, strap-ons, and so much more as well. It’s all up to you!
You’ll have better orgasms (and more of them)
It’s actually pretty common for a woman not to be able to reach orgasm through penetrative sex alone, although the belief that she should be able to persists. Around 75% of women need additional stimulation in order to achieve orgasm and about 50% of women have faked an orgasm at one time or another. That’s a lot of women out there that not only aren’t having a big O, but don’t feel they can be honest about it with their partners.
Bringing sex toys into the bedroom can help couples in that same boat break down some barriers in that arena. They promote better communication, as well as make it easier for women to successfully reach orgasm in the first place. They can also make certain “holy grail” goals achievable. Think multiple orgasms and mutually satisfying simultaneous O’s! Don’t be surprised if orgasms become significantly more intense for both of you as well.
You’re free to focus on the experience without pressure
Once the pressure to deliver mind-blowing orgasms using nothing but the power of his erection is gone, something special happens to a guy. He’s free to be swept up in the moment and focus on the act itself. Not only will you enjoy sex more, but he’ll enjoy it more as well.
Many couples find that adding sex toys to the mix actually brings them closer together for this reason. Instead of each person worrying about meeting expectations with a performance, they’re focused on simply connecting instead. That’s something any couple can benefit from. Sex toys can help distract from any body image issues either partner might be struggling with as well.
All things considered, the decision to start using a sex toy is a highly beneficial one from a sexual standpoint, not only for an individual but for a couple as well. They promote openness and honesty among partners about topics like sexual response. They can be catalysts for improved sexual enjoyment for both parties, as well ongoing experimentation. And they can be great ways to make solo sessions a lot more fun and satisfying as well.
Naturally, there’s a fine art to broaching the subject of sex toys with your partner. If they’re shy or you think they might have reservations, you probably don’t want to just whip one out of a drawer without any warning one night. However, it’s well worth opening up a dialogue, especially if you’ve been looking for a way to take things to the next level. Explore the possibilities today!