Spring is here and there’s no better time to breathe new life into your sex life. What’s more, there’s no real reason why your go-to spring cleaning routine has to stop at cleaning out your closet or rearranging your furniture. Spring is an excellent time to think about rebooting and revamping your sex life.
We’ll go over some prime ideas for rebooting and revamping your sexual repertoire. We’ll even touch on a few ways to add a little more spice to the mix. Your bedroom game will be feeling refreshed and recharged in no time!
1. Start by checking in with yourself.
No one’s personal collection of turn-ons, turn-offs, and preferences stays completely constant over the years. For that reason, it’s important to touch base with yourself every so often just to make sure everything’s still working for you as well as it should be. Start by making a list of points about your current sex life, taking a moment to identify what you do and don’t like.
Then come up with a solution for revamping your sex life in each area that shows room for improvement. Has your sex drive felt like it’s been dragging lately? Treat yourself to some new erotica or porn to explore either on your own or with your partner. Do busy schedules get in the way of your having as much sex as you really want? Try indulging in morning sex more often or hooking up with your spouse for a nooner in the middle of the day. You get the picture.
2. Say goodbye to toxic connections.
Maybe it’s that hottie you keep hoping will commit to you one day despite the fact that they seem happy being “friends with benefits” indefinitely. Maybe it’s a long-term partner that causes so many more problems than they solve and has been that way for years. Whatever the case may be for you personally, if any of your current sex partners are toxic, you know it.
The thing is you can’t be open to newer, more positive connections if old, outmoded, toxic ones are taking up all your time and energy. This spring say good-bye to the dead weight that’s holding you back sexually. Delete them from your contacts, unfriend them on Facebook, and don’t look back!
3. Give your lingerie drawer an upgrade.
While you’re busy going through your wardrobe this spring, deciding what to keep and what to toss, don’t forget to check your underwear drawer. You and your sex life both deserve better than aging bras that don’t support you properly and old, saggy panties that don’t fit anymore. Plus, there’s nothing like new lingerie to put a spring back in your step.
Treat yourself to a trip to your favorite lingerie store or a few items from the “sexy apparel” section of your favorite sex shop. Try not to worry too much about what a potential partner might want to see you in. If you feel like a million dollars in what you’re wearing, it’s bound to make a partner’s pulse race as well.
4. Give your toy chest a deep clean.
When was the last time you went through your entire collection of erotic toys and gave them a much needed sprucing up? Your toy chest could probably benefit from a little spring cleaning to the same degree your closet or kitchen can. Start by rinsing each of them and then following up with a spritz of a spray-on cleaner just for sex toys. Recharge each of them and/or pop in a fresh set of batteries before you put them away so they’re ready to go for your next play session.
Naturally, this is also a great time to think about replacing toys that are reaching the end of their shelf life or upgrading basic options that just aren’t doing it for you anymore. You may also want to pinpoint sensations or experiences you’d like to explore in more detail sometime soon and go shopping for some completely new toys that fit the bill.
5. Get an update on your sexual health.
Taking good care of your sexual health (and your health in general) is incredibly important, so don’t let it fall by the wayside. If it’s been awhile since your last STI screening (six months or more), schedule your next appointment immediately. You need to know your STI status at all times so you can be responsible about it and share that information with your current and future partners.
This would be a great time to make an appointment for a gynecological exam or prostate check as well, especially if it’s been a year or more since your last one. If applicable, make a list of concerns you’d like to discuss with your doctor (i.e. new birth control options, cancer checks, or fertility issues).
6. Treat your bedroom to a reboot.
Another great way to add revamp your sex life is to add some to your bedroom décor first. Start by making sure the room is geared toward sexy, passionate thoughts in the first place. Use sensual colors like red, pink, or purple and swap glaring overhead lights for softer, sexier options that help create a mood. Keep dirty laundry off the floor and well out of sight.
You may also want to consider making your bedroom a technology-free zone to keep distractions at bay. Fill your nightstand drawers with sexy books, scented massage lotions, or an ample supply of your favorite lube. Adorn the room with fresh flowers or oil diffusers that will perfume the air with wonderful smells. Don’t forget to treat yourself to some sensual new sheets and bedding as well. It’s time to pack away the heavy winter blankets in favor of fresher alternatives anyway.
7. Learn a few new moves.
Admit it. Every single time you see a Facebook friend post about hopping on the pole dancing workout bandwagon, you almost do the same, but chicken out at the last second. There’s no time like the present to turn over a new leaf, so why not make this spring the start of a new, sexier you?
Discuss it with some friends and see if they want to come along for the ride (or sign up on your own and make it a point to meet new people). Then embrace your new hobby for the fun, effective workout that it is. Not only will you learn quite a few spicy new moves to surprise your partner with, but you’ll almost definitely get into better shape and build confidence as well.
8. Give your landscaping an upgrade.
And no, we’re definitely not talking about the bush in your front yard, just in case there was any doubt. Spring is the perfect time to give your hair “down there” a little upgrade to go with your new lingerie and bedding.
If you’ve been going through a dry spell or just tend to let things go in the landscaping department over the winter, consider treating yourself to a Brazilian wax or a tidy new landing strip to start the season right. On the other hand, maybe you’ve been beautifully bare for a while now. Maybe now is the time to make the switch to a full bush for a while. Whatever you choose to revamp your sex life, make sure it’s a look you’re excited about.
9. Sign up for a sex class.
Maybe pole dancing class isn’t quite your style, but you’d still love to learn a few new tricks. Why not sign up for a class on sex and sexuality? There are more options offered out there than you might think. Plus, such classes are very informative and incredibly interesting – a great option if you’re looking for something new to do a couple of afternoons a week.
Alternatively, you could consider making an appointment with a sex therapist. Not only is spring the ideal time to explore your options, but bona fide advice from a seasoned expert is definitely a surefire way to revamp your sex life.
10. Get to know your body better.
This means something different for everyone, so take a moment to think of what it should entail for you. Do you wish you could reach orgasm more consistently when you’re with your partner? Consider logging some serious time with a vibrator on your own or going shopping with your partner for some couple’s toys that could help (i.e. a vibrating cock ring or a wearable couple’s vibrator). Ready to bring a long-held fantasy to life this year? Maybe this spring would be the perfect time to open up a dialogue with your partner and trade ideas.
This would be a great time to put together a sexual bucket list as well (whether you’re single or in a relationship). Maybe this spring will be the season you finally decide to try that threesome or jump your partner’s bones in public.