Even the happiest, spiciest sexual relationships eventually require a little extra effort if they’re going to keep sizzling. Life gets hectic sometimes, leaving you tired and short on inspiration once it’s time to hit the bedroom. Relationships deepen and become more rewarding in some ways but too routine in others.
Thankfully, it doesn’t take much to keep your sex life on track. Whether you’re looking to end a rut or be proactive about keeping the next dry spell at bay, a little innovation goes a long way. Here are a few fun, easy ideas you can put into action any time, starting tonight if you’re game.
1. Schedule a fun “naked day.”
There’s nothing like an indulgent no-clothes-allowed day to put the focus back on your sex life. Being naked is sexy, intimate, and feels deliciously naughty. It also ensures you focus on one another and have as much sex as possible.
Send the kids to their grandparents for the weekend and spend a lazy Sunday at home in the nude. Or, if you prefer, you can rent a hotel room on a day you’re both free. Where you do it is up to you, but give it a try.
2. Watch some porn together.
Porn may not be everyone’s thing, but there are more people out there who enjoy it than otherwise. They’re usually just private about their porn use and check it out mostly when they fit in a solo session.
Watching porn with a partner can be a real game-changer. It’s an easy way to get into the mood, especially when you also get to enjoy watching your partner get all hot and ready. It’s also an excellent way for each of you to learn a bit about the other’s fantasies.
3. Try a sex toy together.
Your favorite sex toy doesn’t have to be for your pleasure only unless you want it to be. Sex toys can make incredible additions to couple’s play. Not only do they introduce interesting new sensations to explore, but they take the guesswork out of orgasms so you can simply relax and enjoy each other.
You can get started with a toy you already own. Alternatively, you can go shopping for a toy together. Picking out new toys as a couple gives you an excellent opportunity to talk about sensations and activities, you’d be open to exploring together, separately, or both.
4. Explore orgasm denial.
Orgasms are so much sweeter when you work your way up to them. The next time you’re in the mood to indulge in an extra-length love session, consider experimenting with orgasm denial. Put each other to the test by bringing each other to the brink, letting the sensation subside, and then continuing.
Do this as many times as you can handle. When you decide you can’t take it anymore and finally go over the edge, you won’t believe how intense the sensation is. Orgasm denial can be a fun way to get your sex life back on track.
5. Stage a sexy photoshoot.
Taking and posing for dirty pictures is more than just fun. It can be a serious turn-on and a great way to get closer to your partner. Go ahead and let your creativity run wild. Experiment with costumes, various sex toys, fun props, and anything else that strikes your fancy.
If a video’s more your thing, you might want to try your hand at making a homemade movie for you and your partner to enjoy together. If you enjoy it, consider starting a little private collection for the two of you – your own dirty little secret. Just take care that your homemade fun doesn’t fall into the wrong hands!
6. Have a look in the mirror.
Watching yourself in the mirror as you and your partner please one another is a seriously underrated experience. It quite literally encourages you to admire yourself from another angle, and you might be surprised by just how sexy it is to watch your partner play with you.
If you ever have long-distance sex over Facetime or Skype, it can be just as arousing to watch yourself enjoying the experience as it can be to watch your partner. Try it sometime and see for yourself.
7. Experiment with mutual masturbation.
Yes, this can mean touching each other, but it’s well worth masturbating the old-fashioned way in one another’s presence. Put on a show for one another. Add a rule that says you can’t touch each other, but only yourselves. Then try taking turns giving each other directions on how to proceed.
Adding a little spice to your bedroom activities doesn’t have to be about all-out kink unless you want it to be. Even small things you can try on a whim can make a huge difference. Are you ready to keep your sex life on track?
