When it comes to threesomes, it can sometimes feel as if FFM threesomes get all the love. But as beautiful an experience as two women with one man can be, you don’t want to knock the two-men-to-one-woman version of the fun until you try it.
Not only is being with two guys at once a major fantasy come true for many women, but it can be a fun foray into the world of interactive porn for the men, too. However, as is the case when trying anything new in the bedroom, it’s a good idea to be prepared before you dive right in. Let’s take a closer look at what you need to know to have a fantastic MMF threesome yourself.
Set rules and discuss expectations.
The key to any incredible sexual encounter, whether it’s between two people or twenty, is communication, so that’s where any potential MMF threesome encounter should start. Get together with your partner and talk about what you’re each hoping to get out of the experience. Talk about boundaries, dealbreakers, and rules. And settle on a safe word either of you can use to shut the encounter down at any time if you’re not comfortable for any reason.
Choose your third party with care.
Threesomes work out best for couples when they choose a third party together. If you already have someone in mind, that’s fine. But if you don’t, make finding the right person a joint effort. You can find potential candidates online, at swinger clubs, or just about anywhere, really. However, you should consider spending some casual time together hanging out first to ensure everyone gets along.
Know which positions work best for MMF combinations.
Although most people picture their threesomes playing out fairly intuitively, the reality is that it’s not always easy to figure out who should go where right there in the moment. This is especially the case if all three of you are new to MMF threesomes. So, work out a game plan ahead of time. Put your heads together and come up with some combinations that sound sexy, enticing, and satisfying to all three of you.
Check your homophobia at the door.
Just as the two women involved in an FFM threesome don’t necessarily need to be bi (or even bi-curious) to thoroughly enjoy the experience, the same goes for the two men in an MMF threesome. But many men still have hang-ups about touching or sexually interacting with another man. So, make sure you’re not harboring any latent homophobia that could take the fun out of the experience for everyone. Just relax, have fun, and be open to the possibilities.
Resist the urge to get super drunk or high first.
There’s nothing wrong with sharing a joint or a couple of cocktails over some light conversation to break the ice before getting down to business. But it’s essential not to partake to the point where anyone’s high or drunk to the point of being sloppy. That introduces consent issues into the equation, which you don’t want, but you’re also risking your performance and ability to enjoy the experience to the fullest. It’s just a bad idea all around, so be careful there.
Don’t be afraid to bring toys to the party.
A few adult toys are a fantastic addition to any sexual encounter, and MMF threesomes are no exception. They give you more options to choose from to make sure everyone feels included. They also take most of the guesswork out of everyone having as many orgasms as they can handle. Cock rings, butt plugs, and magic bullets all make exceptionally terrific additions to MMF threesomes, so be sure to explore your options.
Check in with one another continually.
Making sure everyone involved is comfortable from start to finish when having a threesome is absolutely vital, so definitely check in with one another throughout the process. If you’re unsure whether something you want to do is okay with one of the other parties, simply ask. Threesomes are much better and more intimate when all three parties go out of their way to make the other two people feel cared for and prioritized.
Breaks (or even full-on bailouts) are Okay.
Remember, nothing’s set in stone when it comes to a threesome or any other sex act. If you or either of the other parties is uncomfortable at any time, it’s perfectly acceptable to put the brakes on, either temporarily or indefinitely. Sometimes things sound better on paper than they feel in practice, and that’s okay. Just voice your concerns and decide where to go (if anywhere) from there.
MMF threesomes can be a fantastic way to expand your sexual horizons and experiment with pleasure in new and exciting ways. Just plan ahead and communicate for the best possible experience.
